I've seen some submissive women and some slaves have been doing blog posts about how they are getting ignored get and no replies from their Dominants or Master's and how they are going CRAZY from no contact. I've been guilty of it too in the past.
I have a bit of advice to give on this subject. And PLEASE note!! Each dynamic is different, each man is different and each woman is different! I'm sure everyone has different levels and each relationship is different, like I would assume a submissive wife and mother would get a few extra "rights/abilities" for instance. This is just a bit of advice and what works for me and I think it can help a lot of other submissives out there, hoping to save a few heartaches.
When you start to talk with someone, make it clear with them about the contact rules. For me, I am not allowed to call my Master, but I may send him messages on a messaging platform we both found worked well for us. However, I am NOT to bug him for attention. This is a gift from him to me, not something I am to expect or beg for it, or even feel mad that I didn't get it.
To some of you you might not think it's fair. After all you have equal rights as a woman and you want to have respect, right? Ummm, girls... If you have given someone that special power over you and you enjoy that, then you need to except what goes with it and that's he has the control. This is not some little wimp that's goofing off playing video games, this isn't your boyfriend in high school, This Is your MASTER. There is no switch you can turn off and on for this lifestyle. If you give someone control then you need to sit back and take all that goes with it.
Now to the men, make it CLEAR what they should expect from you! Once, and only once I kind of bugged Master to message me, like he had done every night at the same time for weeks. He responded and had a talk with me, he told me he had not said anything about it before so I was not in trouble since I did not know it was not allowed. But after he told me what I was and was not allowed to do, I felt better and knew if he didn't message me that it was going to be ok. But I knew to expect that. When I didn't hear from him next, I wasn't going nuts with worry and self doubt and a lot of other emotions.
Please remember that a lot of submissive women had something very traumatic happened to them at one point or another. A lot of women have been criticized and had people refuse and reject them in every way shape or form concerning communications. So there will be some insecurities. If the dominant have given the submissive the right to message whenever she feels like it, that means you are OK with her doing so, and you must consider how she feels and will perceive having been given that as a privilege. If you don't want to be messaged a million times a day, then make it a rule for her. And if you are given that rule then you need to respect it!
So please, don't pester your Doms, and Doms, make sure your slaves know what to expect regarding the way you communicate.
I belong to Master
