MilitantSoul(dom male)

Militant's Madness

A man who entered the lifestyle during the changing of the guard. From the old guard to whatever the hell we have now.. A 30 something Dominat Polyamours Male build a community in Berks County PA ---The House of Souls

Separation..

5 years ago. March 6, 2019 at 7:30 PM

This can be a very difficult task.

People (myself included) tend to find someone they get along with and rush to see into a relationship. I have learned to constantly test the relationships as we grow together... And I do not hide this from submissives that entertain playing with me.

Many start off in dominate or submissive roles then discover they are kinksters. There is nothing wrong with this.

However this doesn't hurt the lessen the pain of the severance of a partner . Particularly one you spent two years helping them to explore their path as a submissive with.. only to find that three years in they discover the want to go a different course.

I wish her well, saw it coming, but still a little sad to see her go...

Bunnie - Investing so much of our selves and our time, to only find you’re not compatible really sucks... sorry to hear this :(

5 years ago

MilitantSoul(dom male) - True. Unfortunately it seems to Be a reoccurring trend.

5 years ago

Bunnie - It definitely would be easier if people did take the time for some self-exploration beforehand... and then were willing to be open about the fact that kink is more their thing than D/s (or vice versa... but my experience has more been with kinksters either being unaware, or portraying they’re more than what they are)... but unfortunately that’s like trying to make a four year old sit still and eat a carrot, in the centre of a candy store... highly unlikely to happen lol.

I think a lot of people don’t recognise the consequences of their actions. Incompatibility is very taxing and creates a lot of hurt where it possibly could be avoided.

Unfortunately, yes it does happen a lot... especially on a site like this where it’s kind of a “first stepping stone” from vanilla-land. This tends to make it a little more difficult to determine who’s who in the playground.

Something that was said to me by a very wise Man that really helped was...

“If you Truly value it ... you will pay any amount of patience.”

This really helped me to be able to let go of so many worries, because it made me realise that I desire a quality dynamic, and have no desire to settle for anything less... so I became willing to wait however long was needed for that :)

5 years ago

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MilitantSoul​(dom male)

Militant's Madness

Separation..

MilitantSoul(dom male)