Good afternoon, my dear reader! Happy Thursday and may your Friday be the best thing to happen to you this week!
As I sit here writing this, I have to admit to a little frustration. I’m not really sure where to direct said frustration, so I’m just going to vent a bit. Hooray!
So, as I’ve mentioned previously, I’m looking at getting back into the lifestyle. I miss it. There’s a lot of amazing things this life can teach a person. But with the world being such a mess over the last couple years, I’m hesitant to meet people in person or go to large gatherings, as many people are. So that leaves me with searching for more of an online dynamic.
Obviously this has pros and cons. Pros? You can meet people from literally anywhere in the world, which is something you can’t really do in person. Cons? It’s so easy to get taken advantage of, catfished, or just straight up scammed. That’s not even to mention the typical things that come with distance, like longing to have that physical aspect.
But it’s that first set of cons i mentioned that I want to really look at. Why are men such easy targets to get scammed or taken advantage of? What causes us to be so susceptible to this, especially in this lifestyle?
Now, I fully understand that women generally have it worse here, and I don’t want to trivialize all the bullshit all of you amazing ladies go through on a daily basis. I’m just trying to examine this from my own experiences, not trying to compare who has it worse. Women do. Hands down. End of discussion.
In my experience, men far outnumber women in this lifestyle. Or at the very least, the male voice is easily the more vocal overall. As a male sub, it is hard to find a Domme, because we outnumber them 1,000 to 1, and any time one says anything, I’m sure she’s bombarded by messages. Hell, as a straight male switch, even I get messages from guys on a regular basis asking me to be their Dom, not to imagine the occasional dick pics. Fuck guys, be better! Stop that!
Also, ladies, if a guy sends you a dick pic, go find a better looking dick, one with personality, online and send it back to him. The responses are usually pretty amusing.
I got sidetracked. Damn. On here, the community and the admins are good about keeping the scammers away and keeping people safe. And I love that about this site. But when you leave this site trying to broaden your horizons, you run into a world of chaos in all the wrong ways.
Fake accounts, bots, scammers, and all sorts of horrible shit waits for anyone who tries to test the waters. There are so few places one can go to meet people safely. And that’s tragic. But not quite the point of my rant. I think.
The BDSM world is full of wonderful people, but finding them is a crapshoot at best. But I’m the vanilla world, it’s a bit different. You can go to any dating app, make a solid profile, but a little effort into it, and you can meet people easily enough. It may or may not work out or ever lead to anything, but it happens. The fake accounts, scammers, and all the stupid stuff is either not there or easier to spot. Why is that?
On any dating site, the initial message from a fake account is easy to see. “Hey baby. You’re cute. Here’s my number. Text me!” That’s an easy red flag, and when you factor in all the typos and things, it’s always so damn obvious. But on any BDSM based site, the fake accounts actually message you with a basic message and carry on a conversation before it becomes clear that they are fake. Why are they putting in that much effort in this lifestyle? Why don’t they put in that work in the regular dating world? More fish in that barrel, so they would possibly have better luck.
Not that I want to see what little integrity dating sites have get ruined, but still! What makes them put in the effort for us here instead? Is there a general weakness that I can’t see? A desperation that makes it easier? I know a lot of desperate people in the vanilla world as well. So I don’t know that that’s the case.
I truly don’t get it. And it frustrates me because I’m just trying to live my life, but people want to try to take advantage of me. It’s a waste of time. I have met some amazing people on here, but I’d say for every 1 person I’ve talked to, I’ve had 10 fake people message me.
Just to clarify, I’m not upset because I got scammed. I would t make a blog about it if I had. I’m usually very quick to catch on and generally fuck with them for fun. They waste my time, I waste theirs. Pissing off a scammer is possibly the best feeling ever. That makes me wonder if I’m having sex wrong… hmm…
I don’t know where I lost the point in all of that. I feel like I did somewhere. Hell, it may even read as someone frustrated by the fact that I’m not having luck. Nah. I’m worth the wait. So that’s not it.
Anyway, I’m done ranting and being incoherent in my rambling. I hope you have a sweet day, reader. I’m off to go fuck with another scammer. I’ve had him on my hook for about an hour. He wants Amazon gift cards. Alas, I can’t get to a store for those and my debit card is expired… but if you give me your bank account number, I can wire you money!
Wish me luck!
