A warm and enchanting welcome back
Like I already mentioned in one of my comments, it's important to stay safe with hypnosis. Because like everywhere there are people out there using it in a malicious and manipulating way which ruins possible wonderful experiences and in some severe cases even the whole life of a person.
This is why today I want to talk about how to stay safe with hypnosis, especially about what some signs of bad hypnotists/doms are. No matter if true bad intend or only missing knowledge.
So let's dive into the most important part of every kink, safety.
Keep in mind, that these signs I will be giving you, don't always mean the other person has bad intentions. Just like a hypnotist with bad intentions can potentially show none of those signs. This is aimed at people who are new in the community to get a good overlook at the most common signs, always keep an eye open yourself!
One very obvious and hard-to-miss sign is when the dominant/hypnotist is already trying to push limits in the early parts of the conversation. Maybe you said you won't do anal, or you're feeling really uncomfortable with using the name "Daddy" because of a trauma. But still, it's being tried to push those hard limits, saying it's not that bad, to just try it, etc.
And while it's a whole other matter if you're already in a long-term relationship and you calmly talk and discuss together about possible new experiments, all of that has nothing to do in early conversations. If your hard limits aren't accepted, and someone tries to push them, it's a big red flag and you should probably stop going into any more conversations with this person, let alone a dom/sub relationship or hypnosis.
Something similar to it is when during hypnosis and in trance, you're given a suggestion which you are uncomfortable to do or accept so you say no. But the hypnotist still tries to work around it. Maybe you're given the suggestion to strip, but you're still not comfortable with it so you don't do it. Some will still try to push and work a way around like "It's so hot" or "it's natural" etc. Just like with the above, it's pushing limits and it's a huge red flag. In such a case you should as well try to talk about it and probably stop contact once you're awake again.
Other bad hypnotists won't push if something doesn't work, but they do something else instead, they become angry, stop talking, or blame the sub. While it's not a big red flag, if the hypnotist reacts in such ways without a proper reason, definitely discuss this with him. It doesn't necessarily mean you have to stop contact, but it can easily evolve into it.
There are also some signs with which you can easily detect a bad hypnotist early on in the normal conversation. One of them is that the hypnotist dodges questions about him/herself or directly doesn't want to talk about themselves in any way. Sure, there are people who don't feel too comfortable sharing huge amounts of personal information. But if all questions about the hypnotists are dodged, it's a sign that something is trying to be kept hidden.
A commonly found sign is that the hypnotist is thirsty. Not in the sense of needing water. But that their only focus is on having a session as quickly as possible, no pretalk, no getting to know each other, always just wanting to hypnotize you. Such thirsty behavior is often found in inexperienced hypnotists and bad hypnotists and I advise you to try and stop the conversation with such a person as only in very very rare cases does it stop and turn into a good experience.
Let's say in the beginning everything worked just fine, it doesn't mean you're always good to go. Some hypnotists will try to socially cut you off. And while in some range it's important to put some time and effort into the sub/dom relationship, there is always the point where it's too much. Plus, if you are supposed to stop talking to other people, your friends, and even your family, then there's definitely something fishy. The big problem in such situations is, that you have build trust with this person over time, so it's hard to notice dangerous behaviors like this.
This is why it's good to remind you, not every person is bad, there are many many wonderful people out there truly being able to give you a wonderful experience. But there are also always the black sheeps and sometimes they hide where we least expect them. That's why it's good to have some friends and people to stay in contact with outside of the relationship who can help and in need give a wake-up call.
In established hypnosis communities, it's common that people have a trigger that helps them drop into trance or which allows other people to drop them into trance amongst other things. If a hypnotist is directly asking for those triggers and wanting to use them, then it's a sure sign nothing good is going to happen.
And on the topic of triggers, not a big problem as many people do so, but something you should still keep an eye out for. Some hypnotists will give you triggers in your first session, but won't make sure that they are safe. This means, that triggers are only usable in safe places and by only the hypnotist. A common example is the word "SLEEP" which is often used to drop people. If such triggers are not made sure to be safe, then what stops you from driving your car and somebody on the radio saying the word "sleep" and dropping you mid-driving? Not to mention another bad hypnotist could use the trigger too. So it's important that the hypnotists makes sure your triggers are safe, and if it's not done properly, don't be afraid to let the hypnotist know about it so it can be changed.
After hypnosis, there is a very similar phenomenon happening like with normal BDSM play, the sub needing aftercare. Again it's a difficult topic as every person needs a different amount of it and some people are good at giving it some aren't. But especially with hypnosis aftercare is important. Because it can easily happen, that the sub is woken up to fast and experiences nausea or headaches. Often the sub has to truly wake up, which can take some time where the hypnotist should take care of the sub during this time. Those are just two examples, but there are many more examples where aftercare is needed. So if the hypnotist is refusing to give it, then it's a big no and you should probably end the conversation with this person. If the hypnotist doesn't on purpose neglect it, always let the hypnotist know that you need it. Talk about it how much and what kind of aftercare is needed. Aftercare is just as important as the pretalk and session.
There are many possible signs to stay aware of, but those are the most common and most dangerous. Make experiences, talk with people, learn about hypnosis, and quickly you will be able to detect signs of bad hypnotists yourself.
I hope that I was able to give a good overview and understanding of how to stay safe. Like everywhere, those are just examples, hypnosis is such a wonderful and amazing tool. And no amount of bad dumblings will be able to change the amount of possible pleasure, happiness, and help it can give us. So, let go, drop, and enjoy it to your heart's content. And stay safe.
Like always, you are encouraged to leave your opinions or experiences, maybe even signs I have missed out on in the comments. I will do my best to answer each and every one.
Until then, have a wonderful, happy, relaxed, and enchanting day.
TFM
