What does it mean to be a Dominant?
Beyond the obvious connotation of the word itself, I think there are as many different definitions as there are people in the word. I think there are differences, sometimes subtle, sometimes glaring, between us all. It is a deeply personal life choice that we have made, and an individual one.
However, and this is important, there are certain standards, certain considerations that need to be understood as the very basis of what is required.
Be respectful. Just because you're a dominant, it does not give you the right be an ass.
Don't try to 'claim' someone the minute they respond your message. Remember that there is a living, breathing, caring human being on the other side of that screen.
If someone politely turns you down, don't start hurling insults and profanities at them, everyone has a choice of who they choose to correspond with. Human beings, remember?
Do your research. I can't stress this enough. Watching 50 Shades does not mean you know all you need to know about lifestyle, far from it. There is a wealth of information and experience out there, and indeed on this very site. Don't be afraid to ask
Being a Dom does not mean being bully. That is nothing more than abuse, and you have no place here. If the person you meet decides, over time, to give themselves to you and that is your dynamic, that is something completely different. That doesn't happen after two text messages.
I'm sure there are many other things that could and should be said. But these are the subjects I felt I needed to get off my chest.
Rant over, for now at least.
