Random thoughts from the rusty armor

Just the raving of an old perv

When do I deaw the age line?

2 months ago. January 9, 2025 at 2:43 AM

I have always said I would not date anyone within 8 years of my daughters (now 34 and 29). I am playing an online game when I get a message from a guildy just asking for help. After a few days of helping we started just talkin getting to know each other as players. This has been two months now and since then we have talked a friends but I am getting the feeling that she wants something else. (She said she so I am going with it). Anyway she has said she wanted to ask me things and talk about things that I am not to sure of . I always said I would not have online "chats" with anyone under my daughters age (29). To be honest I feel to old to be talking about anything with any woman under 85.

I have always been honest and tried to help anyone who asked for it. It has been yrs since I had anyone ask the questions she is and being she is 27 (?) Not sure what to do as there is no way to know her age even though she does talk as if she is over 30. I am to old for this but she is nice to talk to and she has a good head on her shoulders from what I can tell. Still do I just stop or let her know I have a line I do not cross?

SoftSoul(masochist female) - You can just be friends that's all you can do. They might just look up to you nothing more but want some leading hand lot of women feel that way but just keep as friends. Some women have this baby girl thing around people maybe just tell her to find a Dom or tell her about this place. Sounds like a wow game if am right.

2 months ago

Heero(dom male) - I'm not sure who's struggling the most here ? But assuming you have no problem sticking to your boundaries, the fix seems easy.

1. Communicate to her what your boundaries are.
2. Ask her her age.
3. If her age is greater than 42, great news! Chat with her, date her, whatever you want.
4. If her age is between 29 and 41, then tell her your relationship cannot progress beyond that of friends or maybe mentor/mentee, and let her decide what she wants to do. If she agrees to talk and pursue nothing further, great, talk. If she violates this agreement, stop.
5. If her age is less than 29, tell her your boundaries. Wish her well, and stop talking to her.

If I have misunderstood your dilemma, enlighten me.

Also, was the 85 in your blog a typo? Did you mean 35?

2 months ago

MountaintopMaster - The older, wider one must always do what is best for the younger, innocent one.

This might be something they later regret taking too far. It might be up to you to make this a defining moment in their life, when they choose a healthier path and opt for simply receiving wisdom and having a more platonic form of "love" for a close friend.

Simply put, the choice you make could help them for the rest of their life.

2 months ago

Jack in the box -
Ethical dilemma aside, it seems there's everything to talk about - just relax and go with it. Pay the piper when the time comes ?

2 months ago

SoftSoul(masochist female) - Just say you have someone already but maybe just needed a helping hand.

2 months ago

Kelpi - Thank you all. After a few talks I found out she is just in need of someone to vent to and found a guy who would tell her the truth any now try anything. Seems being honest is better than anything else. I promised to be here for her and she promised not to bring up anything she would not tell her dad ... or in my case her granddad.

Be well all

2 months ago

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