This is more so a question for any male subs reading this then a proper post, but I didn’t feel it deserved a forum post, at least not yet.
So my predicament is that while I have desires for a submissive role in play, in my real life, I identify incredibly strongly with a very traditional masculine identity. I want to be the breadwinner in any romantic relationship, not only do I feel obligated to do so, and to be a traditional patriarch, but that role brings me great satisfaction. Whenever I think of myself in a familial or social context, I am a man, and an imposing one at that. I’m kind of what you would think of if you imagined a human tank. I’m big, a bit fat, but fitness is important to me, and it shows, despite my beer belly. I’m not confrontational, but I feel confident in my physical ability and my strength. That’s all well and good, but how do I reconcile that with the desire to be dominated in the bedroom, when I identify so strongly with traditional masculine social roles. Not to mention that fact that unless my partner was insanely ripped for a woman, (which is not something im into, but thats besides to point) I would always be in a position where I could physically take control if i wanted to. Is that where restraints come in? Is that part of the appeal to being bound, it levels the playing field in a physical sense?
Any other males with submissive proclivities have any impute? I’m not willing to compromise my values when it comes to being a man, but I also want my submissive desires to be met in a satisfying context.
