Ramblings
Just some observations....Dominant should be a guide, a protector, a teacher. A Dom should ALWAYS have the best interest of the Submissive at heart.
Being a Dominant is about taking responsibility. About stepping up to the plate and saying; “My shoulders are big enough to bear the weight, to accept the responsibility that comes with taking control Mentally not just Physically”
To me a Dominant is a leader, a doer not a talker; someone who is willing and ready to provide another person with what they need.
A Dominant needs to know and accept that many Submissives will appear in a manner that the Dom might perceive to be needy. If the Dom isn’t happy to accept the emotional needs of the Submissive, then the Dom isn’t ready to take ownership of a Submissive.
In mY mind ( and more so for me personally) a selfish person can never be a true Dom. A cruel Dom is nothing more than a Man who desires control by humiliation of the spirit
To that a submissive will rebel, fight back, be disobedient, bratty, insubordinate, and just like a child they will generally test the limits of the Dominant er/ Daddy. This is where the good Dominant shines, he won’t feel threatened, and they won’t loose control, or become emotional. This is an opportunity where a Dominant can display why they are in charge, and why the Submissive can CHOOSE him to be...and trustwith control of their mind, soul , body.
I view that in times that correction, discipline, and punishment should be structured, fair, controlled, and relevant. It will reinforce the rules, the need for the rules, and the positions of Dom and Sub. It will give the Submissive what all Subs crave; a feeling of safety within the confines a caring D/S relationship with clear boundaries and rules. Afterwards the Sub should feel a positive sense of purpose and direction, knowing that the Dominant is striving to achieve the absolute best for the Sub.
The D/S relationship needs to maintain balance.....To have that inner GUILT fior disobedience it needs to be equally counter balanced with a kiss, a hug, a stoke of the hair, and a whisper of a kind word - written or spoken in person
A good Dom genuinely wants to see the submissive, grow, and improve as both a person and as a Woman . As such the Dom won’t just use the power granted him by the D/S relationship for sexual gains or amusement; they will endeavor to institute rules and instructions that will break bad habits, provide the Sub direction, focus and drive, and generally enrich the life of the Sub - Mentally- Physically - Spiritually - Emotionally.
NOTE THAT THESE ARE THE WRITINGS OF A TRUE MASTER. Many may not agree with my words - but THESE are my views.
I welcome a sub to comment
