It has been a while since I have been active online here, and I have truly missed it. I’ve also noticed that we have many newer people joining who are interested in learning more about the lifestyle.
Because of that, I’ve decided to start a new series for those who are just beginning their journey and want to better understand what the BDSM lifestyle truly is. We’ll explore how it differs from simply “being kinky,” discuss ways to keep yourself safe, identify healthy dynamics, recognize red flags, and cover many other important topics along the way.
I also welcome the perspectives of those who are veterans within the lifestyle. I am not — nor will I ever claim to be — the authority on BDSM. Truthfully, no one ever is. We are all constantly learning, evolving, and growing through experience.
One of the most beautiful aspects of this lifestyle is that it allows you to create the dynamic that works for you and your partner(s), as long as it is built on informed consent, communication, and mutual respect.
For those who are newer to the lifestyle, my hope is that this series will provide a solid starting point — a place where you can learn from people with years of experience, ask questions without judgment, and begin identifying what it is you truly want in a dynamic, no matter which side of the slash you fall on.
I also hope this becomes a place where people can learn to recognize warning signs and avoid the “wannabes,” social media “Insta-Doms/Dommes,” and predators who hide unhealthy intentions under the umbrella of BDSM.
I look forward to sharing the knowledge and experiences I’ve gathered over the past 25+ years with those who wish to follow along. If even one person gains something useful that helps them navigate their own journey more safely and confidently, then this series will have served its purpose.
Eros❤️🖤❤️🖤