Mixing the vanilla into lifestyle.
Seems as though we tend to forget that when you are in lifestyle that there are still the vanilla things that we do.
Even in 24/7, we need to look at the day to day things that we as Doms or subs deal with. (Switches too, I am not excluding you)
It is easy to loose site of what our partners need from us on the vanilla side of things. We can fail miserably when it comes to the vanilla stuff.
The thing is that we don’t have to. We can still give our partners what is needed, but we need to recognize it. We can still get what we need from our partners if we own our shit and communicate it.
I don’t know about the rest of you, but I failed Mind Reading 101. And no matter how good I might be at anticipating a need, I still miss it sometimes.
Sometimes it is not Daddy, Sir, or Master that I need to be. Sometimes, it is just the vanilla side that is needed. And sometimes I need that also.
First and foremost, we should be partners, no matter what the dynamic looks like.
So I challenge each and every one of you, whether you are in Dynamic or not, to take some time and be vanilla. Just be for a bit. No masks, just be.
See what happens and how it may change you and your partner if you are in Dynamic.
Be conscious of yourself and your partner.
