So again I see that the predators are among us.
I am not talking about the Primal/prey types either.
Nope!! These are the ones that want to come in and pretend that they have been in lifestyle for a while , yet there profile screams “I am a newbie and on the hunt for a woman or man that I can manipulate under the umbrella of BDSM.”
They try and tell people that you have known for a good while that “That person is no good for you.” or “Protectors are only there to manipulate you because they are predators and that’s what they do so they can hunt as many subs as they can.”??
Obviously, they will give you some story of how they have been in lifestyle for 10 years and that they see it all the time and to trust them because they are right. ?
What these people fail to realize is that the community is pretty tight knit and that we all talk. We have all heard the same crap over and over again. (If I had a dollar for each time…)
I like to think that we, as a community, are very welcoming to those that are just coming in to the lifestyle. We don’t care about how much or little experience someone has. It is okay to be humble and say that you don’t know what you don’t know.
What I think that most of us can’t / won’t tolerate is someone that comes in like they know everything about everything when we can all smell the BS like a Male dog can smell a bitch in heat. Anyone in this lifestyle knows that it would take multiple lifetimes to learn everything.
If you are new to BDSM, just say so and begin your journey the right way. Do not be so eager that you fabricate who you are. Again, we can see it. Also, a lot of us live by certain principles which include the 4 pillars of Trust, Honesty, Respect, and Communication.
Last time for the people in the back.
It is okay for you not to know what you don’t know. Honesty is better than creating something based in a lie. ?
Now we return to our regularly scheduled programming of Fuckery and Debauchery.
