To me, TPE is, I would almost say, the most important dynamic of the relationship.
I enjoy passing the authority of certain, previously negotiated parts of my life over to my Dom. There’s something so powerful about being able to trust someone to the extent of allowing them to make decisions for you, and knowing they make those decisions with my best interest at heart.
It’s a very meaningful dynamic that provides an incredible amount of happiness to me. On top of that, it makes me feel safe. My two safe places are likely in a TPE relationship and having my neck in a belt!
I’ve had discussions with someone people who asked me: “Why are you making yourself a mindless beep to your partner?”. I don’t think that’s what I do. I am smart, opinionated, and independent in my everyday life. I DO NOT want to be that way in relationships. I choose to surrender; it makes me happy and feels safe. Besides that, no outside person would notice, for the most part. They would probably think, we’re old-fashioned.
TPE, to me, is about structure. I need structure in all areas of my life. I have to stay organized and have a routine in everything I do. TPE creates rituals that are expected. It also shows me that my Dom is consistent as he would enforce the agreed-upon rules. I am not able to be in a relationship where my partner doesn’t enforce agreed-upon rules, as I will not be able to submit or desire him then (learned that in my last experience). I need him to want to establish dominance over my life. The foundation of TPE is love, acceptance, and a huge amount of trust and it’s fulfilling when he desires my services as much as I crave to provide them.