I feel that assignments are often an underrated aspect of D/s relationships. At first, I was hesitant to implement tasks into my past dynamics due to my full-time employment and freelance work occupying so many hours of my day. I didn’t want the assignments to end up being “another thing I have to do” or “something that will stress me out on top of everything else I have to do”.
Now I can confidently say that I would not want to have to miss them anymore.
For me, the task or assignment should have a purpose for
- my growth/education
- his/my benefit
- training or to gain information
- personal care
- or to simply keep me busy
The last bullet point is probably the most important one to me! 😄 I like staying busy. Executing tasks gives me the feeling of having a purpose. Completing tasks is an accomplishment for me. It makes me feel needed and it makes me feel good.
I need a daily check-in routing (communication is HUGE to me) and providing my partner with what is requested including but not limited to: collar and jewelry, clothing, personal care, playing, self-care, bedtimes, writing/reading assignments, etc.