I realized that my kinks can't be "turned off". I can't exactly explain what draws me to it and at this point, I am not worried about it anymore. This is who I am and this is what I want.
My submission is earned. My Dom will work towards it rather than demand it.
The key to earning my submission is respect, communication, trust, loyalty, and his innate desire to care for me.
I have to be physically attracted to him, sure. But the mental, emotional connection is vital for me as well.
Discipline.
Honesty.
Patience.
Respect.
Sense of humor.
Trust.
Understanding.
The base of a successful partnership where I will feel comfortable submitting in is:
Friends first, lovers second, and D/s last. Otherwise, the dynamic will not have a solid foundation and I need that emotional/mental connection.
