Don't you love when topics that need to spoken about come to you while you're in a deep sleep? I love it, believe me I do.
Well, the topic of ghosting so happily decided to stop by the other night while trying to keep my brain from running wild while asleep. Even the freakin song started playing smh.
Here it goes..... What is the purpose of ghosting, why do people do it? I've noticed on this site and others that this is a common practice. Which to me is really a fucked up thing to do. Does the person realize the severe mental/emotional/psychological/physical damage it can cause in some people? Why reach out, form a connection and become casper in a day or two? Is it because your ego was stroked to the point of satisfaction and you no longer needed that person to inflate your ego? The excuses that come to mind (these are possible imho to say in place of ghosting) I was too busy to keep the connection going, I felt we weren't compatible, I'm sorry but....... say anything as long as it's the TRUTH. I've seen it stated and being told that HONESTY is very important. Where the fuck is it? Half the time I can spot a liar a mile away. If you can't be honest then you need to stay where the hell you are and not interact with others.
What is the point of ghosting someone who you formed/have connection with? The other person feeling that this could be going somewhere and **POOF** leaving that person in a state of doubt, causing insecure feelings within themselves, beginning a constant loop of not being good enough, not only for you but for others and well as themselves. Some people become depressed, anxious about trusting anyone else (hence adding to existent trust issues). Do you see where this is going? Do you see the damage that it has caused? All because you needed your ego to be inflated to the point that you can feel proud of yourself, feeling like a peacock displaying it colorful feathers strutting down a dirt path. Was it worth it? How does that make you feel knowing that this is the kind of damage you can cause of person with your ghosting? Do you realize that this can cause a person to have a mental breakdown if they are unable to get themselves out of this loop? Hmmm maybe you do and you're enjoying how they're reacting, continuing to reach out with no response. That makes you a total dick. Are you proud of yourself now that you know the damage this does? If you can count all the people that you have ghosted, what would you do? Would you reach out and apologize for your fucked up actions or are you too proud to admit that you fucked up royally? How about this, do you understand that playing with a person's emotions/mental capacity to fulfill your egotistical needs is a dangerous thing? How many became suicidal? How many disappeared not only from the LS but from family and friends? How NO ONE in their life can be trusted.
Now this may hurt a few egos and I really don't give a fuck. I ran out of fucks when this topic had to be spoken about. How come DOMS (I haven't come across any dommes) are the main ones that do this shit. If this is a common practice for you, then you need to back away slowly and re evaluate your life and see the damage you have caused. But hey, I know your ego won't allow you to so......
To those who have been ghosted, remember this...IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S THEM!!!!! YOU'RE GOOD ENOUGH, STRONG ENOUGH, BOLD ENOUGH AND SURE AS HELL BRAVE ENOUGH. BEING TOO MUCH TO HANDLE IS NOT A BAD THING. STAND IN YOUR POWER AND DON'T LET ANYONE PUT YOU DOWN BECAUSE YOU DON'T FIT INTO THEIR BOX OF WHAT YOU SHOULD BE
