Some people don’t understand how someone can live a vanilla life and a BDSM life, all at the same time. This has been a topic of conversation that has come up a lot with me. I find this question or conversation comes up mostly with the new people in the lifestyle.
“How can you do what you do (work) and still be a slave?”
Well let me explain. It can be summed up with one word....Freedom. Which may seem like a contradiction. If you think of it in terms of how freeing it is to let go, it is easier to understand. Yes, I lead a very professional life, where I must maintain a leadership role. I have a staff that I guide, make many on the spot decisions and I have to be on point at all times while I’m at work.
The second I leave work. I let that all go. I have a routine built in place to help me let that go. It starts with a simple text telling my Master “I am headed home”. Once I am at home I can let the worries of work stay at work and I can free myself to embrace my slave. The side I have been hiding all day. That in itself is freeing. Letting go and relaxing.
When not at work I have routine and structures in place, in my dynamic, that allow me to be me. No matter where I am at or what I am doing, the strength of the house guides me. I am always the reflection of my Master, regardless if people know that or not.
The moral of the story is don’t ever be afraid to be you. No matter who or what that is. Be true to yourself. Be true to your inner self, your inner core. You may not always be able to be open about your true self, but that does not change who you are.
