Let's talk collars.... Since my last post. I have had a few people ask; what about your collar? How are you collared, but can not be open with it at work? Before I answer those questions, I should talk quickly about my viewpoint and beliefs on collars; that way, my answers will make much more sense.
First, with this new age in the lifestyle, many people have lost a collars true meaning. THEY ARE NOT AN ACCESSORY!! I see so many girls, women wearing collars, and when I ask them what it means to them, one of the most common answers is; it is pretty, it is cute, I wear it when we are playing. All the above answers make me twitch a little.
In my opinion, there is no stronger bond than what a collar brings. It holds a deeper meaning than a wedding ring. It is not an accessory. A collar is not something that should be taken lightly. It is more than just wearing it to show the world you are his; it is the feeling of it rubbing on your skin that reminds you that even though your Master may not be right in front of you, He is always with you. It is knowing that you are protected, cherished, loved, wanted, desirable; you are HIS always and forever. I will never forget the moment of kneeling in front of my Master and Him placing the collar on me. My breath was taken away; my walls were completely down, my heart was filled, I was HIS, I was finally finding my peace and happiness.
Now, to answer the questions. I know there are many people in my situation, so maybe this can help someone. No, I can not wear my collar at work. Too many questions are asked. There were many late-night discussions on what we should do. Once I had that collar on me, I knew I could not be without it. So, when I am at work, the collar is placed in a black velvet bag that is always on me, either in my pocket, in my purse within arm's reach, or on my desk. I still feel connected with it and with my Master, even though it is not on my neck. As soon as I leave work, I will put the collar back on. I know this is where some people will struggle with this concept because, yes, I do place my collar on myself every day. However, the calm and peace that I feel as soon as it is on are indescribable. I do not believe my connection with my collar is lessened because I can not wear it during the day. It almost makes it stronger in a way.
Yes, I do have two collars. I have a less formal day collar, and I can wear it when I am not in a work setting. I also have a more formal collar that I wear. This was the collar that I was first collared with.
My best advice is to think they want a collar and think it is ok to buy themselves a collar. Please don't do it. Please wait for that moment where everything is right, and the right person gives it to you. Yes, this takes time. They should not be given out freely and without thought. Once it is earned and belongs on your neck, that connection you will have with it means so much more. A collar is a life commitment. Your always and forever. Don't take that for granted.
