A New Beginning

Wow, anyone else dealing with the massive swings of interest caused by ADHD? After being off here for ages, I was reading a book and now my curiosity of this community has reared its head yet again!

Anyway, I was wondering about everyone's experience getting into the community. As much as I love the kinks, my nerves prevent me from exploring. 

So how did y'all break the metaphorical ice in this situation? I was wondering if it may be in my best interest to try attending some of the larger events to ease into it! 

Yours truly,

Squid 

Good Afternoon all! Welcome to another Squid installment.

Recently I have been thinking about fantasies in general. You know, self exploration and all that. So you know what I have noticed as an LGBTQ+ member? My tastes in BDSM seem to vary depending on which gender. I wonder if anyone else has had this experience?

I have very little interest acting as a dom for males despite my bratty side. Now on the other hand, women, oh boy do my protective juices get flowing when the person in question is cute with a harmless disposition. If the other woman is a dominant individual, it doesn't seem to trigger this particular instinct.

Full disclosure, I have not had the opportunity to sleep with another woman but a girl can dream right?

SquidInk

Okay so, from the minute I joined, my inbox has been flooded with messages from doms and I know this is a common occurrence for subs. For the most part, there have been nice and welcoming messages of reassurance. Love that shit. Seriously, 10/10 you guys and gals who reach out purely to welcome and show your support. Gold star y'all for real.

HOWEVER. I've only been here for, what, less than a week? And yet already a pet peeve has formed. There is a huge number of doms that seem to reach out to literally anyone asking them to be their slave. Now maybe this is fine for some but it realllly gets my goat that they do not seem to read your profile beforehand. 

A simple glance over my profile would be all that it would take to discern that I am a brat, so do not go in expecting complete obedience and submission within the first few messages. Respect. Has. To. Be. Earned.

In life, I am actually a pretty anxious individual and have always had a hard time rejecting people, especially sexual advances. Because at least someone likes me right? Now I am trying to develop into my wilder self and would really rather cut my own hair off than deal with all the entitled people who seem to be popping up. Sadly, these particular individuals are impossible to avoid so I have decided that the best technique is either to ignore them or take immense pleasure in sassing the fuck out of them, depending on the mood.

So word of advice from the viewpoint of a new sub:

To other subs: don't take their shit, keep an eye out for people who actually resonate with you, we have all the time in the world

To these particular doms: please consider actually reading the subs profile and do not immediately expect us to change our own tastes to match yours? Especially with the shyer subs, I worry for you guys...

Anyways, thanks for coming to my TedTalk. No seriously, I know my first blog post was a tad ranty but that was my honest first impressions so if you don't like it then, well, move onto the next blog? Hopefully I will have more positive things to report going on from here!

Peace,

SquidInk