SquidInk

A New Beginning

Hello from your neighbourhood Squid. I have been interested in elements of BDSM from quite a young age, specifically primal play. Despite this it is only recently that I decided to finally reach out and connect with the community. After seeing the blogs of other members I figured it would be interesting to do one from the perspective of a fledgling so that I can have a personal record of my own development. And hey, who knows, maybe it will benefit some other individuals who are still new to this world! Because its okay to make mistakes, we're all human after all!

Flooded Inbox!

3 years ago. March 28, 2021 at 5:17 PM

Okay so, from the minute I joined, my inbox has been flooded with messages from doms and I know this is a common occurrence for subs. For the most part, there have been nice and welcoming messages of reassurance. Love that shit. Seriously, 10/10 you guys and gals who reach out purely to welcome and show your support. Gold star y'all for real.

HOWEVER. I've only been here for, what, less than a week? And yet already a pet peeve has formed. There is a huge number of doms that seem to reach out to literally anyone asking them to be their slave. Now maybe this is fine for some but it realllly gets my goat that they do not seem to read your profile beforehand.

A simple glance over my profile would be all that it would take to discern that I am a brat, so do not go in expecting complete obedience and submission within the first few messages. Respect. Has. To. Be. Earned.

In life, I am actually a pretty anxious individual and have always had a hard time rejecting people, especially sexual advances. Because at least someone likes me right? Now I am trying to develop into my wilder self and would really rather cut my own hair off than deal with all the entitled people who seem to be popping up. Sadly, these particular individuals are impossible to avoid so I have decided that the best technique is either to ignore them or take immense pleasure in sassing the fuck out of them, depending on the mood.

So word of advice from the viewpoint of a new sub:

To other subs: don't take their shit, keep an eye out for people who actually resonate with you, we have all the time in the world

To these particular doms: please consider actually reading the subs profile and do not immediately expect us to change our own tastes to match yours? Especially with the shyer subs, I worry for you guys...

Anyways, thanks for coming to my TedTalk. No seriously, I know my first blog post was a tad ranty but that was my honest first impressions so if you don't like it then, well, move onto the next blog? Hopefully I will have more positive things to report going on from here!

Peace,

SquidInk

CuckoldforNylons(masochist male){Not Yet} - I'm not going to lie, this has happened to me as a Submissive male. My first day here, I was messaged by a woman who was a Domme. We talked about fetishes and fantasies and then out of the blue the began to give me instructions and started setting rules and forbidding me to talk to my friends and family without permission... etc. I was like, wait a minute, when did I say I was ready to fully commit to being her slave. When I resisted and told her I need to get to know her first before I just give my submission to her, she said this, "You are not a real submissive then. You would know that your feelings and wants do not matter. Good luck."

This broke me down a bit. I mean, is that true? Do a submissive's feelings and wants get dismissed?

Truth is, I do not believe that is so. But, both here and on Fetlife, I have experienced similar attitudes.

3 years ago

SquidInk - I understand completely! Thanks to those first few people I was contacted by I felt myself doubting what it means to be submissive. Then I did a doubletake, sexuality is fluid so what gives certain people the right to decide what is and isn't. Obviously certain rules are important like trust, communication and safe words. But I firmly believe that there will be someone who fits right with my needs and vice versa. Screw the losers who lack acceptance!

3 years ago

SirsBabyDoll(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Insta-Doms is the term used here and for a Beat *points to self* I concider them "Brat Target Practice"....I LOVE mouthing off to them! It's great fun and frankly, a wonderful stress reliever!

3 years ago

SquidInk - Right?? What a freaking vibe

3 years ago

Voldemort(dom male) - Welcome to the Cage. And really sorry you had to go through that. It's a current occurrence i think. All subs new or otherwise complain about their inbox being flooded. Don't worry about comments telling you that you are not a true sub. Darn such people. It is they who are not true to what they profess to be. Like. They don't know that it's the sub who detains the real power in a dynamic? They expect you to submit instantly? Come on. That's preposterous. Hope you gave them hell.

3 years ago

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