This is going to be a two ended rant. So either buckle up or pop the popcorn, extra butter please.
Do you even know how you come across? Did you ever stop to think that that first message is not only the first impression but also so telling in your over all character?
Exhibit A: Message from XYZ
Hi I want to chat tell me about u.
Does not give one fig in this exhibit as to what side of the power grid you identify with, you have shown me two important insights to yourself.
1. You are unable to tell me why you think you want to chat with me (more on that later)
2. You have given me nothing in which to interest me in wanting to chat with you.
But alas, yes I can use MY time to go look at your profile to see for myself.
Exhibit B: The profile of XYZ
80% are under 50 characters and of that 80% 50% are not filled out at all. Yes, I can see your age, location and self designated title. Beyond that most I would find the profile of a slug to be more enlightening or informative. (Hard limit: Salt)
So again the tells into your game
1. You are looking to put in little effort or no desire to showcase who and why anyone should bother.
2. You really do have the personality of a slug.
The first two I understand can be really good signs some one is new or nervous about how to message or what or how to describe themselves. I can forgive and over look that to a point, for newbies.
But then we move on to:
Exhibit C: My profile.
I spent a lot of time and effort in putting my profile together. I update it as needed to inform of changes to limits, relationships, fetishes and what who and why I am on this sight.
I have very specific details in there along with ways to gain brownie point with me too. I am not a hard read and I would hope you could find one thing to bring to the initial message from it to start a conversation.
So when you don't (see I told you we would get back to it)
That in itself after seeing your profile, or lack of, is the final nail on the character coffin of any interest wasting time in a reply.
1. You are either just tagging online opposites to your given side of the D or s at random.
2. You are to lazy to even scan a profile to see if you actually have an interest.
3. You are looking for the tug and tickle and the initial message is just to get to the real question your wanting to ask. "Do you cam, skype or send pics".
Ultimately that is all I need to know. You can stomp your foot or go cry in a corner that I misjudged you or am being a bitch (tighten that buckle cause you would have known if your read my profile).
But to start chewing at the other end of my rant (as a submissive to all you Dominants). Is that really how you want to show as your strong suit?
You are wanting to impress on me why I should want to become your submissive and let You have control over me?
Yet you can't, won't or don't feel its worth the effort to do the work just in a proper message or profile?
Just to be fair, submissive stop the cry baby pouting about not finding you're "One Twue Dominant". If you're not reading profiles or wasting time on one that has clearly at least now been shown to not the energy to put into themselves let alone you, you ARE getting what you are asking for.
So am I impressed? Clearly not. Now where's that popcorn? Pass the salt!
