It is all about connection.
Connect with your partner in every way: intellectually, emotionally, mentally, etc.
When you feel connected, it is easy to feel safe and to trust.
Enjoy each other and have fun.
Create a positive, loving space.
When you feel good, it is easy to enter that positivity feedback loop.
Create a space where you are free from responsibilities and outside pressures.
Clear your head of real world worries before playing by talking about them.
Otherwise, intrusive thoughts may be more common.
Create a beautiful space where you want to connect. Have it be uplifting and tranquil. Turn off your phones and alarms. Free yourself from outside distractions.
Then, when you are ready, invite your partner to join you on the bed. Look into her gorgeous eyes and smile. It isn’t a staring contest, but spend some time simply enjoying looking into each other’s eyes and being close together. You can hold hands. You might notice after awhile that your breaths begin to match each other as you tune into one another’s rhythm.
When you are relaxed, begin gently caressing your partner’s skin lightly. You may start wherever you like and slowly explore one another’s bodies with soft touches, which might soon turn into kisses. There is no rush. You have all the time in the world. As your bodies awaken and your breathing changes, you’ll notice how your mind quiets. You are focused more on the here and now.
The goal isn’t about giving each other orgasms as quickly as possible. Instead, it is about connecting through knowing each other in a deeper way.
It takes a minute to accept yourself as you are and to be okay with your vulnerability. Instead of hiding, you want to be seen. You want your partner to feel what you are feeling. You also want to give your partner pleasure because of your feelings for them.
For me, Love is a verb. It is giving positive energy to someone and acting to increase their happiness in the world.
When you are with your partner in this space, you are no longer thinking about yourself and your own pleasure, but rather how you want to pleasure your partner. You know that by offering your body, you can give your partner so much pleasure. You are the best gift because you are giving all of you and not just the physical self. Your partner can feel your desire how you want to be united with them. That feeling reassures them how much you want to connect with them on the highest heights.
It doesn’t matter what kinky activities you choose to do. These are all fun ways to connect even more. It helps you to get on the same wavelength. It is all about intent. Is it only about physical pleasure or is it about connection, too?
I find the greatest pleasures come from being connected and wanting to connect.
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The challenge is finding someone capable of connecting on all levels. Many people are limited in some way or aren’t ready.
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When you do find someone that is a good match for you, it requires consistent investment to maintain that connection.
Over time, the potential to go even higher exists because you have more history together of things that bonded you closer.
