So, I tried sharing a personal, and very powerful, sexual experience on here in my last post...and I don't think it went over too well.
It maybe was TOO personal, and, powerful and real though it may have been, it was maybe a bit too explicit. So for that, I apologize.
Sexuality, especially "alternative" sexuality like many of us here enjoy, is a very personal thing. What can be the single most intense thing ever for one person, can be the biggest most gross-out turn-off for someone else.
For me, sub-space is like a drug; you can have the most intense rush ever and spend the rest of your life chasing that high. But that's all I have to say; I promise I will try to keep this, well, more tasteful.
On another note, I have read a lot of discussions on various forums about what a "Real" submissive is. Rather than answer this right away, here are three hypothetical examples:
Slave Bob lives at his dominant's home. His dominant is his world and only contact. He spends the entire day cooking and cleaning for his superior and running errands for him (or her). All money he earns goes right to his dominant. It is a live-in, 24/7 arrangement. Though there is corporal punishment for his mistakes, any sex- kink or otherwise, is not part of the equasion. He sleeps in a bed in the basement, and works round the clock for his dominant. He has a brand and tattoos specifically stating that he is property of his dominant, and wears a collar at all times.
Example 2: Mildred sees Master Jim regularly, three times a week at least. When Jim snaps his fingers, She does whatever He wishes- sexual or otherwise. There are no limits, nothing she won't do for him. He controls every aspect of her life, but she is fine with this.
Example 3: Todd's girlfriend Lynne likes dressing him up in a French maid uniform and making him suck a strap on. She ties him up for her amusement- and his- and sometimes even spanks him. In the bedroom, it is clear that Lynne calls the shots. But yet, in public, they appear to be a normal couple. She may make many decisions for him and clearly has the upper hand in the relationship, but yet Todd still has his hobbies, life, friends, and job- but when in private, he makes sure Lynne is happy and satisfied, doing all of those things a good and loyal husband/boyfriend and gentleman would.
There are many more examples, but- I think all three of the above are "Real" submissives, even if they are submissive to a different degree. Because every relationship is different and has a different dynamic. So much of this is about finding the right dynamic that fits for both parties. Would I want a 24/7 live in full time slave relationship? I would have to say that probably isn't for me. While many submissives would gladly give of themselves to their dominant, that doesnt mean they need to surrender every aspect of their lives and personal identities. In a BDSM relationship, I would still need time for my hobbies, friends and job- "me" time, so to speak. But that doesn't mean that I am less of a "Submissive" than Todd, or Mildred, in the above examples.
I guess I'll stop by saying that, May everyone of you out there find the right relationship that works for you- find that perfect submissive, or that dream dominant, and may it work.
