i was discussing BDSM and me seeking out to understand my dominance needs with a friend. She asked what is the most important part of domination for me. She is aware that its been many years since i have had the opportunity to spend time with a willing, wanting submissive. So maybe my answer is naive and flawed.
i answered her, the most important thing is to "know". she asked me what i meant by that.
i said, as a dominant you need to know what kind of courage a submissive must have to surrender to her submissive nature.
you need to know your own limitations so you don't go beyond your own needs and desires.
you need to know your submissive limitations, needs, wants and desires.
you need to know when your submissive changes in herself at any time, she may not be able to use the safe word.
you need to know where she is at, emotionally, physically and mentally.
you need to know the law. (in the uk if you accidentally hurt or kill someone in a sex game you are liable for it.)
you need to know how to look after your submissive before after and during a scene.
you need to know how to cope with your own feelings and fears.
you need to know how to cope with your submissive's feeling and fears
you need to know that the submissive is the one with the true power she can give it or take it away.
you need to know the amount of responsibility that you have by taking on and living your domination.
you need to know that if you fuck up you can be hurting someone who has given themselves freely to you.
you need to know, yes you need to know.
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