1 year ago. July 18, 2023 at 8:19 PM
I wrote this up a while back for females interested in CnC to help them understand how CnC will work with me. Below is what I send to a female considering CnC. I hope it helps you when considering CnC because it can be a truly amazing experience.
**Why do you want this?**
You may not wish to answer this question. Over the years I have experienced CnCs with women that just like it rough and wish to give up all control and not know what is going to happen. Then there are others where they do not wish to say why. I suspect it has to do with past abuse or trauma, so I will understand if you do not wish to share why.
**Safety and Trust**
First and foremost, safety is critical for us both. In addition, trust must be established both ways.
When it looks like it is going to happen, I will provide my personal information so you can vet me properly. You should provide that information to a trusted friend as well. I also recommend you set up with that friend a schedule of sorts (every 2 or 4 hours) a time you will text or call them and let them know you are OK. Your cell phone will be available to you at all times.
I will also have trusted friends that will know a CnC event is happening and if they do not hear from me they will come to my home and investigate. This is for two reasons. I don’t know if you are bat shit crazy dangerous and secondly in the bazaar situation while are restrained I become incapacitated they can rescue you.. Steven King wrote a book called Gerald’s Game in which a married couple go off for a kinky weekend. While she is handcuffed to the bed, he dies of a heart attack and she is left handcuffed to the bed without the key and with little hope of rescue. So I think you see where I am coming from. We both need a safety net of friends and contacts.
**What will happen to you during the CnC?**
The trick to making a CnC as realistic as possible is a balance must be established where, you the victim, knows what is and what is not allowed as defined by you. That is usually determined by your “Into” , “Curious ” and "willing to try" fetish lists. In addition, a "Prefer Not" and "Absolutely Not" lists should be available so I know which activities are completely off limits. Safewords will be in play so you can slow down or stop any activates you are not happy with.
If you do not have “Into” , “Curious ” and "willing to try" fetish lists and "Prefer Not" and "Absolutely Not" lists on your profile I expect you to provide them as we talk.
Think of those lists of activities as list of ingredients to cook a dish. A dish only I know using the ingredients are on the list. You will not know what will and will not happen. The exception to that is if you state an activity, you absolutely want to happen.
**Making Contact (The Beginning)**
How your CnC starts can be many ways. The most common and easiest way is for you to show up on my door, lost and needing directions. I live at the end of a dead-end private road so once or twice a month people really do show up at my door lost. You will be invited in…it will begin.
Another is you fly in and I pick you up at the airport under false pretenses.
Or we can agree to go to the same bar and “meet” randomly which leads to me inviting you back to my place to enjoy the hot tub.
Abductions, which can be very tricky, so they are my last choice. The problem is there is always the chance someone witnesses it and calls the police or worse they step in as a good Samaritan. So careful consideration must be used if we are going to do an abduction.
**How long do you want it to last?**
It can start and end in a single day or be extended overnight(s) into days.
**Aftercare**
That depends on the type of ending you want. If you want a friendly ending, it will include soft gentle aftercare where you can rest and recover before leaving or being taken to where ever you need to go.
If you want a more realistic ending, then it can be me basically throwing you out of the house or dumping you back where I picked you up without any kindness shown (after all it is rape roleplay).
**Do you wish to proceed?**
If after reading all of that you wish to proceed, we will explore the above. Feel free to ask me any questions you may have or express any concerns you would like addressed. If have had a change of heart, there will be no hard feelings and no reply is expected or needed. Just understand if you wish to proceed it will be my goal to make this the most interesting, scary, exciting, thrilling experience of your life you will never forget.