Thank you for everyone's advice and support with dating... its completely insane out there.
I'm trying to be a softer and approachable woman but life doesn't half make that hard sometimes... because you have to survive and that's difficult without having a man to sleep next too.
I'm trying my best to reexamin that softness is not weakness
Men... stop thinking you are unworthy and it's a kindness and a virtue to leave a woman in the wilderness of dating... it is not. Do you have any idea how many predators there are out there.
Women don't want the biggest house, the newest car, the biggest TV. They want someone who will connect with them, give them hugs, raise children with and they feel safe with.
Saying you need a house, need more money ect... yes there are realities but be careful your not just pushing someone away or making excuses. Because when you get those things you will be terrified to loose them to the wrong woman.
You build together, from day one. With nothing, you create everything together... both of you.
Everyone seems terrified of commitment.... I'm not sure why when it's the fence sitting that hurts people.
Lastly... if your not serious about longer term things, marriage, kids ect... don't entertain a woman's hopes at a certain point it becomes cruel. Don't waste her time... but honestly, there aren't many men out there that are serious about the longer term, which is incredibly sad because it's legacy and family. All they care about is going out and living in fantasy land.