I could write a long piece about communication and expectations, victim complexes and dry drunk mindsets, but the long and the short of it is that I went to Australia for three weeks, things got weird and distant with no explanation, but seemed mostly ok, and then they went nuts on me a couple weeks after I got home. Apparently I didn't rescue them from themselves and didn't behave perfectly the way they wanted me to, and I should have known exactly what they wanted without them having to say.
Oh, there is so much more to it, but suffice to say, they weren't ready for poly, and don't know how to have healthy relationships.
I've been trying to pull myself out of the humiliation, heartbreak, and anger (they got really nasty, and even angrier I think that I didn't agree and hate on myself *or* give them an abusive villain to hate by slinging personal insults and criticisms like they did) but I'm getting there, slowly.
Not sure when I'll be willing to try again with a second partner. I won't say that I never will again- that's always what I feel after a breakup, but it isn't my nature. It isn't my orientation. I will fall in love again.
Master Ashigeru and I are going strong, though.
I've been really sick, but I'm working to claw my way back from that.
So, what's been happening on The Cage?
5 years ago. December 18, 2018 at 1:25 AM