BDSM lifestyle - specifically Sadomasochism can cost one their career, livelihood and cause family & societal isolation. It’s the most misunderstood in the BDSM lifestyle. That’s what happened to me many yrs ago before I knew what BDSM was, much less Masochism. In the US Army, Sadomasochism was a certifiable mental illness and they can discharged a soldier for it. One night another soldier (then boyfriend) & I played real hard before he shipped out overseas the next day. The marks on my back he gifted so I would remember him. When I got called in for a physical, I immediately knew I couldn’t pass it because the marks on my back were visibly fresh. But I refused to rat “him” out in exchange for saving my career. I fell on the sword.
Yrs later, in civilian life, I still thought I was a freak of nature until a real experienced Sadist - an almost 80 yr old Methodist pastor figured out what I was. He “took me” hard & fast on my birthday. And that was the beginning of me being transformed into a new creature. For 6 months, my masochism grew with his Sadism. I became hopelessly ADDICTED to pain and he was the only one on earth I could get a “fix” from. One night we got caught by trustee while I was in restraints on church altar, being flogged. I bled! Days later UMC prepared a jury trial to convict him. I begged the reverend to let me fall on the sword for him. I wanted to lie for him. He said NO. He told me that he will take the fall. The Result —> He was defrocked by UMC, lost his political standing, disrupted marriage, lost retirement, and lost social standing. He fell on the Sword !
Marquis De Sade, the father of Sadomasochism, too fell on the sword - but he was willing to DIE for his beliefs as a SADIST. He refused to hide what he was. He had no remorse for what he was. Sade went to prison and died in an insane asylum for being Sadist. Secretly every yr on Dec 2nd, I toast to Sadomasochism lifestyle — as so many have fell on the sword for it.
