Need Feeding Like A Vampire Needs Blood

SageFlame​(sub female) - Since you asked for views I will share.
My first reaction is that it is good to have a list. To know what you seek. Then I was sad because what if you get all of these things and she has not the character that inspires you?

It might be fun and helpful to make another list of what your heart desires not just the appetite.

What kind of person do you seek? What character, temperament, mindset, etc. Most of your time will be everyday life stuff.

There are no two subs alike.

Lastly, the Bi thing, and toys; you might not meet someone who has explored aspects of BDSM. Not enough to know what she likes. From reading other subs blogs I find that over time desires change. This being true for both Dom and sub. This is why my thoughts went to finding the person that is suited for you more than the kinks.

It's my understanding that part of a Dom's guidance is to help her discover her desires that have been dormant or unrealized.

sarahrah - I think it’s AWESOME. Very clear. All people should be like this- just spell out what they want and even before you find it, you’re sending put into the universe your order:) yeah, it’s possible you wouldn’t get all of them, maybe also star which one or ones are MOST important

Master Ebony​(dom male) - Like everything in life. Everything is negotiable. Agreed It would seen one sided but I am not looking for a slave plus I have been fortunate to have had all 10 on my list in the past. I was fortunate to have a Sub that made this list possible but we met at the wrong time in our careers. If a Sub saw this list and was not into a third of what I had on there then it could still work. As this is linked to my other blog I should point out that if you also read my Checklist post it will make things clearer that there is an equal for me out because I truly believe we have our opposites waiting to be found.

SweetSirRendering​(sub female) - vegetarians taste better ;) … i mean our food of course.

being direct is a good quality and is quality communication. thank you for sharing

Master Ebony​(dom male) - Re the vegetarian comment.. All I will say is.... its a matter if "taste" lol 😜

MsDove​(sub female){Eternal Pi} - I think it's a good list. Remember your sub will have a list too. I know that as I grown into my submissiveness with my Dominant, my desire to please him intensifies. We are sharung experiences now that I would not have imagined I would have wanted, yet I do.

I would ask how you want the "bi" thing to play out. Is it just for playtime or do you want a 3rd? That might need further clarification if you are presenting this to a potential sub. You will find what you want! 🕊

Master Ebony​(dom male) - Hi Ms Dover re the Bi thing.
If the port unity came up that the Sub wanted to have her needs fulfilled by being a Domme or another Sub that would be a plus. Can't plan for it but nice to have as an option. It opens doors and additional excitement to keep the relationship alive with possibilities.