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3 years ago. September 8, 2021 at 10:15β€―AM

Why do people do this I was gonna say men but am very aware women do it to

 

why can’t they just say I don’t wanna talk to u or it’s over or anything other than just leaving 👻 

 

do they not understand the trauma they leave behind

 

i have been ghosted 👻 a few times and even by someone who themselves have been ghosted and I know how hurt they were 

 

if you think I’m not for u just fucking say if u think am ugly say or it’s just not work just fucking say am woman enough to handle it better than the bullshit that’s left behind with ghosting 

Cressida Clytie​(masochist female){Taken} - So sorry. Some people just can't be human about it. You got this. Sending you hugs.
3 years ago
Vacquero one​(dom male) - Honesty, respect. Every one deserves it.
3 years ago
missguarded​(sub female) - It’s just so easy to do but the crap it leaves behind the investment urgh 😞
3 years ago
Grey Eyes​(sub female){Owned} - I agree...you invest time talking to someone. Thinking hmmm, maybe this could work. Then poof they are gone without a word. Man up and graciously say I'm sorry I'm moving on, this just isn't working for me. I'm getting very used to it now because it is so commonplace, but in the beginning I was thinking I was thinking WTF.
3 years ago
missguarded​(sub female) - Thats the thing we shouldn’t have to get used to it x be decent is all I ask say the truth x
3 years ago
CelloCaster​(dom male) - All the time.. it happens to us too
I left the cage a while ago. I had to for personal reasons. I tried to let people know who I had been involved with . I hope I did let everyone know…But yes, it’s quite common place …
3 years ago
EchoGirl​(sub female) - Same here. πŸ’” And if you're an over thinker like me, you constantly think was it me? Did I do something wrong? It hurts.
3 years ago
missguarded​(sub female) - BIG time over thinker x it hurts so bad

Overthink everything why and I not good enough etc
3 years ago
CelloCaster​(dom male) - Thanking sucks… :-)
Definitely an overrated activity. I’m in a 12 step program and one of the things that I hear a lot is “when I’m in my own head I am behind enemy lines”…
3 years ago
HEAVEN'S STARCHILD​(switch female) - This right here!!!!! I'm so glad you spoke on this. I'm so sorry you were put through this. Abandonment/ghosting is the one thing i find unacceptable. Imho ghosting is a coward's way of not having to say another word or to explain themselves about a situation. Ghosting/abandonment is the most hurtful thing anyone can do especially if it has been done to them. I try to keep in contact as much as possible, when i see/feel the convos is lessening and no response is being given. I know it's time for me to move on (not without the overthinking) What i fn hate the most is when they reappear like nothing ever happened or blame you for the ghosting. I also feel that no one realizes is a traumatic experience and something else added to our need to heal from list.
3 years ago
missguarded​(sub female) - It’s so traumatic it pushes me over the edge cause I feel things so much it’s all in bright colours so hurts just as bad
3 years ago
HEAVEN'S STARCHILD​(switch female) - I'm so sorry you were hurt like this. No one has the right to traumatized anyone this way. Then others wonder why there are trust issues
3 years ago
missguarded​(sub female) - But that’s the thing doing that it causes trusts issues Jensen my name
3 years ago
Sweet Ginger​(sub female){βš“ } - Unfortunately, ghosting is very common and it's not ok...I was going to blog about this but got very busy. I was talking to someone here, luckily for me I didn't feel any emotional connection. It still doesn't excuse the behavior. After about 3 conversations, he wanted to know where I worked. I told him that I didn't feel comfortable sharing that information. His response was, "oh, ok, excuse me", and logged off..I was like, this is odd behavior but didn't give it much thought until the next day he deleted his profile. I blocked him, I'm at a point in my life that I don't need drama or bs. It showed me who he is and whether or not he comes back, he has lost my trust by showing me he's emotional immature. But then again, I wasn't into him, which may or may not be his other reason(s) to justify him being a coward. Don't know, don't care but I'm sharing this with you in the hopes that you won't take his actions too personally. A lot of times it's more about them then you.

People who ghost are emotionally immature. They have little respect for the other person and your time. If in a relationship, the other person deserves the courtesy of having the talk, even if it's uncomfortable. It's called being a grown up!

Some people ghost because they weren't into you and some ghost because you said something they didn't like. Whatever their reasoning to somehow justify their actions, it shows lack of respect and who they really are.

So sorry this happened to you! You deserve better! We all do!! *hugs* 🌹
3 years ago
HEAVEN'S STARCHILD​(switch female) - This right hereπŸ‘†πŸ‘†πŸ‘†πŸ‘†πŸ‘†πŸ‘†πŸ‘†
3 years ago
Coolguyclayton - I would never ghost anyone.
3 years ago
lifeofdom​(dom male) - Ghosting = Cowardness of facing an answer from the person being ghosted..
"in the old days". You even be told: I don't like you, or go away..
Now.. Its compete lack of words.. Indifference..
2 years ago

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