Slave Training
What is the goal and is it going to be achieved in slave training?
My purpose is not to hold your hand, but provide a step by step process to follow when training a slave. Keeping in mind that the foundation of the BDSM lifestyle is the informed consent of the parties involved. Many questions will arise and I would suggest that you always error on the side of safety both emotionally and physically. Spending additional time to discuss issues in never a problem. You have to trust each other to move alone this patch together.
Not everyone is suited for the bdsm lifestyle or wants it. That is why communication is important. Both parties must know what is involved and agree to proceed. There is usually no single step from the vanilla world (without bdsm) to a master/slave relationship. It is a gradual journey you take together with mutual understanding, communication, agreement and growth. Take the time to let trust grow.
I get many emails from submissives that want their partner to be dominant and in the lifestyle and from dominants that want their partner to be a submissive in the lifestyle. My advice is always the same. Not everyone wants this lifestyle. For the relationship to work both parties have to understand it and want it.
If you started the relationship vanilla (without bdsm) then it may remain that way because you can’t change the parters mind or make that decision for them. Yes, you can discuss it with them and see if they are willing to try it but you can’t force it on them. This is a lifestyle of personal choice not force. Many, many times the answer is no the partner does not want to live a bdsm lifestyle. In that case, you have to honor the partners wishes and remain vanilla or find a new partner. It is that simple.
Even if your partner has a dominant personality that does not mean he wants to by your bdsm lifestyle dominant. Even if her basic personality is that of a submissive that does not mean she wants the bdsm lifestyle. It takes both personality and a desire to be in the bdsm lifestyle. The term “informed consent” is often used in the lifestyle. Both parties know what is expected and agree before starting.
A slave begins her path into slavery by giving up choices. Often a slave contract clearly states both parties requirements. A slave needs to go into this with her eyes wide open. The purpose of this guideline is to train her to the point she is worthy of being a collared slave girl.
A master should design her training to mold her into the type of slave you desire. If you wish a sex slave, then teach her those skills. If you require domestic, then train in those skills. A Master trains a slave to fit his needs. She can be trained to have many skills if required.
A new dominant in the lifestyle, first must learn to Master a slave girl and conduct safe training and BDSM play. Get help if needed.
Many in the lifestyle follow the Goren ways. This came from a series of books written by John Norman about life on the mythical planet of Gor. It is not necessary to follow this brand of the lifestyle. Masters have been training slaves long before the books. I, like many relish the books, but prefer my own style of training.�A new slave will find the lifestyle crammed with slave positions, protocols, speech restrictions, rituals and rules. It is not an absolute, to have all these, but most new slave girls respond well to them.
Slave; hear me; it is not necessary be experienced as a slave or at BDSM
The need to have prior experience at bdsm is a myth many future slaves worry about. Every Master has his own brand of training techniques. Listen to your Master, hear his words and become the best possible slave girl you can be. Never fear your dreams of slavery, embrace them, and you will learn fast. Ask questions when in training, in order to understand what is expected of you. If in silent protocol, remember the question and ask when speech is granted.
A Master becomes a slave’s personal trainer. He guides her into her future. In these pages, I give the trainer sound methods to accomplish training his slave girl. The core of slave training is an art form albeit based on knowledge and skills, found in logic and reason. These pages are geared towards training slave girls and dominant men, but can be used to train slave boys and dominant women. The roles are the same. As always I would suggest you talk to those already in the lifestyle for advice and help. Find a local community and you will more than likely discover people with many years of experience willing to help. In addition there are many websites and be sure to explore them just as you do this one.