Truly, I wonder how many people understand childhood development and its play into our adult life. There are endless possibilities for what a childhood can look like, however development starts immediately. Everything, every look, every response time, every response, etc.
Now there are differences between not providing enough attention and making mistakes but fixing them. The difference here is the effort that is applied when an issue is obvious or can be observed. At least, in my opinion.
Children are constantly learning what the world is through the people raising them. They learn whether emotions are safe, whether mistakes lead to comfort or rejection, whether love feels stable or conditional. Even silence teaches something.
The strange thing is that many of these lessons follow us quietly into adulthood. Sometimes they show up in obvious ways, but other times they disguise themselves as personality, independence, hyper-awareness, people pleasing, emotional distance, perfectionism, or even exhaustion.
Shedding the old for the new is difficult because some parts of us were built for survival long before we had the ability to choose differently. Awareness changes things. Once you can see the pattern, you can begin deciding what and who deserves to continue with you and what can finally be left behind.
I think healing comes with many lessons such as, giving yourself what should have existed from the beginning, understanding when we focus on growth not everyone comes with us, we must be kind to ourselves as we never know what truly needs healing and change until it begins.
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