Rolled for seduction, Now what?

So this week has sucked which ended up impacting our kink life. And you know I get it. I work weird hours and I like to take my time as a dom, setting up a session running through it in my head and then take my time with her the longer and more drawn out the better.  This means when life gets busy and complicated I have a hard time adapting, I mean sure we still use ties and it's still pretty rough but that has become our "vanilla." Normally I would be a lot crankier about this because well I love kink even if it doesn't lead to sex. But this has given me a chance to step back and really reflect on what's good about sex, kink, my Sub (which good is always an understatement) and to have a bit of fun in a way that changes up the dynamic. Without feeling the pressure to be a good Dom and provide a good session that we both enjoy and meet our, physical and emotional needs. I was able to be relax and let loose. And my usually very obedient and eager sub was able to show her bratty side. yeah, we may have been having more "vanilla" sex and less kinky anything but we were also able to laugh and tease each other more and just have fun and be goofy in a way that sometimes the dynamic can distract from. Am I saying I want this all the time? Or I want to change the dynamic permanently? No, I miss it both in and out of our more intimate moments, but it also been a way to remind me what I love about BDSM what I love about physical and intimate relationships and what I love about her both in and out of the dynamic. It's allowed me to realize what I've started taking for granted. And you can bet that the next time we have a session I'm going to appreciate it more and maybe relax and put a little less pressure on it. because for us it's about adventuring and exploring together and when I start to take it to seriously and not allowed to laugh about how ridiculous it all can be from time to time I get in a rut and forget to explore what all kink has to offer us as a couple. I'm going to start trying to do something new simply because it interests us. And if I goof and it's embarrassing well we can laugh at ourselves and try again knowing that there's no real pressure to be the perfect Dom or Sub.