Rolled for seduction, Now what?

So I honestly get nervous any time I see someone post about aftercare. Are they going to be lamenting not getting enough, complaining about the need for or outright denying it? Or best case an interesting read on the process and challenges of proper aftercare for different subs. well, the good news it's not the first two. Bad news it's not the last one. To be honest I struggle with aftercare but not because I don't find it important. In fact, It can be one of my favorite parts of any session. I am very much a physically affectionate person in sexual/romantic ways and in platonic ways. I'm a big hugger. But my subs needs/wants and my needs/wants afterward can vary. This is for two reasons first off what my sub asks for, wants and needs is fairly simple, cuddles, being reassured and told that she is loved and gorgeous and being fed and given a glass of water. pretty basic stuff. The problem, I always want to do more. "After cuddles what about a bubble bath with your favorite tea and a good book, or maybe a massage to relax those muscles that were bound? No? how about..." you get the idea. And while she's appreciative of my efforts to try and give her more specialized attention all she really wants and needs, is a cup of water, a snack and cuddling while watching the Great British baking show or criminal minds, (mostly because we're in love with Reid) which is like one of my favorite things to do with her. I am all about those cuddles both in a kinky way and outside of the dynamic. Well except after a session. You see my needs differ greatly from time to time. Instead of being my touch-friendly physically affectionate self I need time for just me. Away from kink and away from people. My aftercare tends to be doing the dishes because it gives me a physical action while allowing me to decompress and reflect. And it's not like I don't want her around, I just need to be in my own little world. After a little while, I'm back to my physically affectionate self. Now don't get me wrong I make sure she's taken care of and get's the aftercare she needs but I still find it more difficult sometimes. Thankfully we've talked about it so we are finding ways to get both of our needs met. We cuddle and chat and I reassure her that she's a good kitten and that I enjoyed myself. That I love her and that she's gorgeous. And then when she notices I'm getting uncomfortable and anxious she asks for snacks and water. I get it for her and then she gives me a few minutes to gather myself and my thoughts and cool down from my dom mindset and return to my non-kink self where we then eat snacks and you guessed it watch the great British baking show, or swoon over  Spencer Read together. Is this the ideal result? No of course not, ideally our needs would meet perfectly. But for me, it does show I have the perfect sub. She communicates her needs to me and makes sure they're met while still acknowledging my need as a dom for aftercare and respecting that in a way that allows those needs to be met. And for me, that's what kink is in our relationship, mutual respect, and understanding that our roles both have stresses and needs and that it's about the connection that comes not just from the actual session but the teamwork that goes into making the session successful.