My experience only……
I have a trigger that has developed over the years and had served as a protective warning for me in the past. Well recently it popped up in response to something a long distance platonic married male friend said and did. I told him his words and actions made me uncomfortable and I was going to shut off contact. Yesterday he messaged me that “triggers could be dismantled when properly understood”.
WTF.
Dude….I know why I have this trigger and how it serves me. Two years of therapy have helped me understand it, recognize and honor it. I have no intention of “dismantling it” as you suggested. And quite honestly I resent the fact that you are pushing back. Time to double down on the no communication thing. Any chance of me not blocking you is dwindling fast. I don’t owe you any further explanation. My reasons are mine alone.
This is something I never would have been able to do a few years ago. Growth and progress.