Are a lot of US Torn
I see so many liking my pics and Comments on my pics and it so good a little of us can Relate to them
But how many of us a Torn on the inside of our minds on what we want as I see yes the women want to be something but is it a sub there want or it just someone who can look after them.
And do a lot of you understand of what the role of a sub and Slave involve
I just ask as I hear so many who seem to be lost in what they see as a sub or slave let’s break down the two and let’s find out what there both mean and what’s the difference
And let’s see how far you would so to be either one.
Let’s start with a sub
What is a sub? It’s short for submissive and describes a person (male or female) who exhibits submissive personality traits in a BDSM scene or relationship, such as empathy, agreeableness, openness and a desire to relinquish control.
A sub chooses to act as the bottom, allowing the dominant to lead the interaction and does so in a consensual way. A sub is not powerless, as can be depicted in books and movies.
Most of us are born Dom or sub and out own Personalities will have Traits of one of them in us.
A sub might have a submissive nature in everyday life as well as in a Dom sub encounters, or they may only wish to display their submissive tendencies during consensual sex.
If you have the sub Tendencies does not mean you have to play out on them as we may have to run at been the boss and only when we get home we can let our selfs go and let someone else take the control so you can shut down and not have to think.
What is a sub’s role?
The role of a submissive is to submit to the Dom partner. Some submissives enjoy serving their Dom they take pride and pleasure from being able to help another person. Other submissives are only interested in being a sub in the bedroom, and the thrill is purely sexual.
As long as the rules are set down and there’s no Confusion of where it starts and ends of the sub having the control of what is going to be done to her
The trust must be form the control will be handed over it’s so important that the sub knows on what she is handing over to a Dom and where it starts and how far it goes I see a lot of subs and Doms don’t set down the rules of what will be Excepted and the subs get upset as well he Doms only take what they’re want and she feels like she just been used and not taken care of.
We talk about this in a lot on D/s relationship where it can be one sided as the Dom is busy working on his life and looks at is sub more of a play thing and forgets she has needs as must as he does for me it’s comes back to why is she a sub and what am I doing to look after her needs.
What is going on inside there minds I as all Doms who have a sub ??
It’s so important to get inside her mind to build the best connection is to understand her and most Doms don’t no how to get inside her mind
I call it the Mind Fuck
I use the Mind Fuck in so many ways in keeping the intensity in the relationship of what we going to happen to I done a writing on this as well
But coming back to her and her past is so important on getting inside her head and taking about what she needs as a sub and taking about her past and what she fears and what is missing in her life
Not all subs will come from a dark past but as long as you as a sub understand where you come from and what your need is from been a sub
This writing a lot will Relate to
The fact that you're struggling doesn't make you a burden.
It doesn't make you unloveable or undesirable or undeserving of care.
It doesn't make you too much or too sensitive or too needy.
It makes you human. Everyone struggles.
Everyone has a difficult time coping, and at times, we all fall apart.
During these times, we aren't always easy to be
around - and that's okay.
No one is easy to be around one hundred percent of the time.
Yes, you may sometimes be unpleasant or difficult.
And yes, you may sometimes do or say things
that make the people around you feel helpless or sad.
But those things aren't all of who you are and they
certainly don't discount your worth as a human being.
The truth is that you can be struggling and still be loved.
You can be difficult and still be cared for.
You can be less than perfect, and still be deserving
of compassion and kindness.
I find most subs feel this and have a dark side to them and it ok to have it and to hide it but for a sub to open up to her Dom the deep connection and love trust must be there and you have to let it out and let the Dom in take on board of your own feelings as a sub
I as a Master hear a lot of this in the BDSM world of women Struggling with in there own minds of how to stop the Chaos and to Silence the mind and want to give the control over and just switch off.
It not a ease thing to do but it can be done with the right Dom/ Master
My self find it hard to make the deep connection with a sub and I know I have the skills to show her and give her what she needs.
You can see my Techniques in my writings if you like to take a look and I tell you it’s all about passing on Knowledge of what is missing out there.
Let’s look at the different type of subs out there.
What types of submissive are there?
The question of what is a sub is a difficult one to answer because there are so many nuances and variances. Each submissive is their own person and submits in their own unique way.
That said, it’s useful to use broad labels to categorise submisisves in order to answer what a sub is.
The submissive categories are by no means definitive and are not mutually exclusive. You can be a little at some moments, a sex slave at others, and service orientated at all times!
It’s up to you to find your own path and form of submission which works for you
I ask sub to do the sub test this will give you Guidelines to work out what you mybe.
What is a Service orientated sub?
A submissive who takes enjoyment from serving others.
These subs tend to have naturally submissive personality types in all aspects of their life (although this isn’t a rule).
She enjoys menial, dull tasks, and being corrected when a mistake is made.
Ultimately this form of submission helps her grow as a person and overcome destructive self-harm behaviours which would previously have been an outlet for her inner pain.
We as a Dom have to know her hard limits and to show she is in a safe place and know we got her back and we Support her as she grows with out help.
What is a Pain slut sub?
A pain slut enjoys the S&M (sadism and masochism) element of BDSM.
She thrives on her dominant inflicting pain on her. This could be a way of helping her become present in the moment and forget her day to day troubles, or because it is a turn on, or because of the highs of adrenaline and endorphins which the body produces to counteract pain.
A pain slut’s mirror would be a sadist Dom.Pain sluts enjoy more aggressive impact play, such as whipping, canning, and being restrained.
We talk about the sub space as this is where I can shut her down and give her the space she needs to let go and her mind can float and be free
What is a Little sub?
A ‘little’ enjoys feeling nurtured and cared for, often regressing to a younger age.
A little girl thrives under the guidance of a Daddy Dom or Caregiver Dom.
Some littles want to regress to being babies, toddlers, young children or teenagers, and their BDSM scenes would involve playing with stuffed animals, colouring-in, reading books, enjoying crafts. Basically all the activities which children would enjoy!
As with other forms of submissive, it’s a break from the stresses and strains of reality. As a little, you can forget on that and just have fun in play mode, knowing that your Daddy is watching over you.
This is my Time to give a sub of the Nurturing side of me showing her can be be any age she liked and plays out on them with me bern the Daddy Figure she craves it for me to look after her as I would my own child
But at the same time loving her just been her and making sure she look after with the care of knowing she is safe
What is a bratty sub?
A brat is a submissive that answers back, play fights with her Dom and generally needs a firmer hand to keep in line. She enjoys Challenging her and trying to wind her Dom up and seeing him rise to the challenge of keeping her on the straight and narrow.
A brat will continually challenge the Dom authority and try to playfully take back some of his control.
I used to know a bratty sub who would play up at time when I was trying to test out be working so the mouth gag would come in handy for her to keep her quiet 🤫
But it was always fun in her watching her trying to fight with me to get it on and keep it on
But it was the power Exchange she loved in the way I would handle her.
So for me it was a way to show my Strengths in the way I would control her.
If you find yourself with a batty sub, be prepared for a little more work than the other types of sub! Patience and not rising to her angsty remarks are key.
But we should not over punish her for been who she is
It where I see where Power exchange plays a big part of what makes the Relationship
Strong.
I find the more playful she is the more fun it will be not just in the bedroom the strong the connection the better relationship you will have with her.
What is a rope bunny sub?
She will love rope and everythng to do with it and with some love to be Suspended up in it but she will loverd to be tied up
The main keys points in tis is the safety of how tight the rope is and how long you can keep the sub in it
For me I don’t have the skills so I use what we call is a Rigger who is someone who has the skills to do this
A rope bunny is someone who enjoys being restraint with rope! They likely engage in Shibari (Japanese rope bondage) with their Dom I have many lovely pics of the different type of rope ties there are in my pics
I find them my self to be very lovely to look at please feel free to go though my pics
What is a sex sub?
Sexual subs are submissive who only enjoy the dynamic in the bedroom.
These submissives may have dominant personalities outside the bedroom, but during sexual encounters want to experience the thrill of being overpowered, ravish, and generally bossed around.
Sex may include light bondage, spanking with a hand, Dominant sexual positions such as doggy, lazy doggy, spooning and standing or lifting moves.
The sex sub would also enjoy pleasuring her Dominant-sexually, even more so if done from a submissive position.
As an example, giving her Dominant a blowjob whilst on her knees with her hands tied behind her back.
This can also come into poly Relationship where the couple could have more then
One sexual partner who may give them
Something that there partner may not give them.
Thete can be in a open relationship to that there get the free range to play with others.
What’s it like to be a Slave and how difficult is it from been a sub ???
What is a Slave sub?
I call them slave sub because the sub still shines through the slave when the full control is handed over to her Dom or Master for me it comes down to the understand of what the role will give us both she to me will know I have full control on everything she does from the moment she opens her eyes till she shuts then at night it takes a lot of work to make sure you know what her needs are and yours are and she’s needs that full Attention on what she’s doing.
The extreme end of a service orientated sub.
A slave enjoys engaging in a Master/slave dynamic, which might entail service 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.
Submissive slaves would generally be taught commands and positions to adopt (such as sit, stand, etc.) and be held to a High standard.
Any breach of the rules would result in punishment. Slaves would undergo some element of submissive slave training by their master to learn his routines.
It comes down to the Protocols and fully understanding of what a slaves role is and your role of yours.
We talk about the collar and what it means to collar your sub or slave and what comes with it and how far are we going to go for them I ask my subs would your Dom bend down over a paddle so she would walk over your back so she would not get wet feet I ask how much does your Dom do his Research in been a Dom I was so lucky at 18 to meet a Master who took me under his wing and brought me into the world of BDSM to teach me the true meaning of what BDSM is about
80% menal 20% sexual
I talk about a lot of what it is to be a Dom and what it is to be a Master
But I ask you what is it to be a sub I touch on a little on this on my writing
I would love all your feed back on here and o no there is so many more diffent types of subs out there but on touch on the ones I been on lucky to have meet and play with
I believe the way forward is Knowledge and understanding of who we are and what we want and as long as we open and willing to share on what we know we can all learn something new about our selfs or something we can show or partners.
Conclusion
There’s no right or wrong way to be a sub. Ultimately the major differentiating factor between a dominant and a submissive is the desire to be in control. A dominant wants control, and the submissive is happy to relinquish control.
What’s important for you as a submissive is to know yourself, and be comfortable in your own skin.
Once you have an idea of the type of submissive you want to be, you can start experimenting in a safe, sane and consensual way. Find a dom who mirrors your submissive style (easier said than done) and start playing
