Looking help being safe

Hi I'm a new dom that likes to switch and I need help with ideas and being consensual with my partner who is a natural brat and doesn't realize it.

My partner is a male heterosexual who acts like a brat and submissive but I don't think he realizes it. I don't know how to bring it up. I think he would be open to a bdsm relationship as we have done light restraint play but I want to do more. He definitely gets me going when he doesn't listen or teases and we end up doing vanilla that leaves us both unfulfilled. I don't want to scare him away as it would be unconventional me being the dominant. But he is asking to bring in a girl he met at a club which I wouldn't mind after having a thorough discussion but I don't think that will fulfill him or would be a band aid.

AdamDragon(dom male) - Need to have a sit down discussion and be honest. Just say how you feel with an open mind and open heart. Ask questions. Honesty and transparency will prevail here. At least you will know where you both stand. Clarity is a must. 🌹

2 years ago

RedKildare(switch female) - Thank you I will.

2 years ago

Literate Lycan(dom male) - AdamDragon pretty much nailed it. How do you wish to live your life and with who? If you and he have a discussion and it opens the doors to great potential, then win. If instead he decides it isn't what he wants then you know now and can focus on finding that which fits you fully, that's a different kind of win. As AdamDragon says above, at least you know where you both stand.

2 years ago

Bunnie - Bring him here :) give him the tools to discover for himself where it may lead.

2 years ago

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Looking help being safe

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