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Longer-Term D/s Considerations

Things unseen often affect relationships. This is a (perhaps infrequent) chance to look at some of them through the lens of a decade or more of online experiences with a variety of submissive partners.
2 months ago. January 12, 2025 at 1:24 AM

Nearly every online D/s player has faced this major issue of trust.  To send or not to send intimate pictures, or do intimate video chatting is the issue.

This is not a small concern, as the internet is overloaded with images of nude or nearly nude women who had no idea they would be spread across a public domain along with thousands and thousands of tits, pussies and asses of  unknowing or embarrassed wives, lovers, subbies .

So it is no wonder so many subs refuse or balk or have nightmares over sending intimate images.... Sending or posting your nude body takes even more trust than permitting completely restraining bondage.   That at least can be managed by having proof documents of your partner, like a driver's license, phone number, even a passport photo to insure you know who is tying you up in a scene.

But sending requested or required intimate pictures of your body?  Almost impossible to control what 'he' might do with them.  So a massive dose of trust is necessary before hitting send.

Yes, the Cage is awash in unscrupulous sharks and packs of hyenas hoping to score nude pics from naive newbie subs signing in for the first time.  Many a newbie has responded to their demands before realizing they shouldn't have  too quickly sent nudes.

So what can be done ?

  I'm no lawyer, but I suppose some form of non-disclosure agreement might be created before sending such images.  Cumbersome.

Closer to home here, perhaps the requesting Dom could be (respectfully of course) put on notice that  the Cage staff would be notified of any violation of trust. Maybe an on going forum topic could be created to address this issue and any potential solutions.  Even so, sometimes months or years go by before the offending images wind up in the public domain.

I'm just going to post this as an ongoing real issue, particularly for those doing online D/s.  Of course those doing in person are also vulnerable. Pretty hard to prevent revealing pictures being snapped when you are bound tight and maybe blindfolded.

At its heart, this is entirely a trust issue.  Without total trust in the partner asking (or demanding!) such pictures,  just feel that big red flag and make it a hard limit unless or until until that necessary trust is created.

Still, having said all that,  can't your subbie send your heart racing and your cock stiffening, even half way around the world,  by sharing the perfection of her body?  She's simply magical !  Like most other visual Doms, I cherish every such image ever gifted me; none ever has, or ever will  escape my safekeeping.  And that is as it should everywhere be.

 

 

SoftSoul​(masochist female) - Pretend one Doms try to put on a show for new or old say they willing to relocate you and would do this do that. But once they have you go to all day get on voice or they will hand up they just want cyber phone sex and nudes nothing real. Some these pretend Doms want sub going to carry them have six figures sounds kinda lazy. Does matter how much sun makes a dom should secure their life don’t need to make six figure but enough to take care then both. And pretend one’s wanna get off but don’t wanna meet or be committed.
2 months ago
TwinkleEyes​{n/a} - There are a lot of good points in your blog. Thank you for sharing.
2 months ago
Sweet Ginger​(sub female)​{⚓ Taken} - I have that in my profile how creeped out I am about hyenas..just the mention of them...ewwww..Good description of some with that said ladies if you to choose to "share" please be cautious one can never be too cautious..know the other person: listen, verify, go with your intuition and never do anything your uncomfortable doing. If someone tries to push it especially too quickly red flag, move on
2 months ago

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