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Defining my role as a dominant

This is my written process of defining what being a dom means to me. All constructive feedback is welcome.
2 years ago. February 9, 2023 at 3:22 AM

I think I am approaching a coherent philosophy of BDSM.  Here is my draft of the overall principles by which I would live.

Tenets (in no particular order):

  • The Dominant signs on to make decisions for two people with both of their interests in mind within the boundaries of the agreement.
  • The submissive signs on to let someone else make decisions for her to help her grow as a person within the boundaries of the agreement.
  • Honesty, trust, communication, and respect are at the heart of the relationship.
  • Neither the Dom nor the sub is inherently better than the other.
  • We are humans and will make mistakes. What matters is how we deal with those mistakes.

Comments, Critiques, and Questions are welcome.


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