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Defining my role as a dominant

This is my written process of defining what being a dom means to me. All constructive feedback is welcome.
1 year ago. January 23, 2023 at 11:18 PM

Having read more on the Dominant's role, there seems to be a mix of opinions on whether a Dom should apologize.  One school of thought is that apologizing makes a Dom seem lesser to a sub, but at the same time, apologizing seems to keep at the forefront the idea that we are working with people.

 

Do the Doms at The Cage apologize?  Do the subs at The Cage think less of the Doms who do?  I am looking for your personal experiences.

Ingénue{VK} - I'd dump a Dom who couldn't. Pompous cunt.
1 year ago
ButterfliesAndCuffs​(sub female){LJ} - I’d think less of a Dom who wouldn’t apologize. He definitely wouldn’t be my Dom.
1 year ago
SirsBabyDoll​(sub female){Pizza+☕} - Word! It takes FAR MORE courage to humble yourself in front of another, to be vulnerable in your humanity, than it does to ignore your faults and not make amends.

Just because someone carries the title "Dom" does not make them infallible.
1 year ago
jkillaaa​(sub female) - Doms are still people 🤷🏻♀️
1 year ago
dollMaker​(dom male) - I apologise, simple as that.

Those that play the I don’t apologise uber alpha dom card, are not the sort of people to learn from, except maybe how not to be a genuine dominant. I see those sorts of statements, whether on a profile, or comments on here, in the chat room as massive red flags.

If you get something wrong, make a mistake, show respect by saying sorry to the person.
1 year ago
sexycurves​(sub female) - I have had apologies from doms and they are very much appreciated, especially as I find it hard to apologise sometimes.

It doesn't make them a lesser person in any way shape or form, unless the apology isn't sincere.

I wouldn't be able to trust anyone who refuses or can't apologise.
1 year ago
I'mME - The ability to apologize is not a sign of weakness, it only means we made a mistake and want the other person to know that we recognize it.

I have some experience with someone who never apologized, being from that mindset. It was/is something that I don't want to experience again.
1 year ago
LongerJohnny​(dom male){B&C} - Someone told you that one human apologizing to another is a sign of weakness? That person owes you an apology for giving you ignorant, jackass advice. If you did something that you are sorry about or that you regret - apologize for it. Being a Dom doesn't make one an infallable superhero, no matter how big the D on their cape is.
1 year ago

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