D/s dynamics is all about optics
People on both sides of the collar tend to like the look of what they see. Guys look at the pretty naked girls, trussed up and cum on their face. Girls want to see the muscles and tats. Both get their gonads pounding and, poof, orgasum and off to the store for shopping and picking the kids up from school.
That's their perception.
They don't want to look deeper. The deep scares them. They don't want to see the commitment. They don't want to see the duty of s type to D type, or the other way around. They don't want to see the work.
As a Dom, I see the s type as a block of granite. Cold, hard, unyielding.
But I will spend hours looking beneath the surface. I want to see that form that is struggling to get out. I want to chip away at that stone until I see a hand emerge from the rock and show me it's palm. Sometimes that is all I need to do and it will be someone else's job to chip away more of it til a arm is reveled.
Other times, it is up to me to polish the whole statue and present it to another for final viewing.
Or, Sometimes I just need to get others a new set of glasses.
