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1 year ago. February 16, 2023 at 3:20 PM

Deciding whether or not to let others know about your interest in BDSM can be a difficult decision, with both pros and cons to consider. 

Pros:

Finding a Community: One of the biggest benefits of being open about your interest in BDSM is that it can lead to finding a community of like-minded individuals. This can be particularly important for those who feel isolated or misunderstood due to their sexual preferences. Being part of a community of people who share similar interests can help individuals feel less alone and provide a sense of belonging.
Authenticity: Being open about one's BDSM interests allows for greater authenticity in relationships. This can be particularly important in romantic relationships, as it can help ensure that partners are on the same page when it comes to sexual preferences and expectations. By being honest about one's desires, individuals can create more meaningful and fulfilling connections.
Education: By being open about one's BDSM interests, individuals can help educate others about this form of sexual expression. This can help break down some of the negative stereotypes and misunderstandings that exist around BDSM. By being an advocate for BDSM, individuals can help create a more accepting and open-minded society.
Cons:

Misunderstanding and Judgment: Unfortunately, many people still view BDSM as deviant or abnormal. This can lead to misunderstanding and judgment from others. Being open about one's BDSM interests can lead to negative reactions from friends, family, and even romantic partners. This can be particularly difficult to navigate for those who are still exploring their sexuality and feeling vulnerable.
Professional Implications: For those in certain professions, being open about one's BDSM interests can have negative professional implications. In some cases, it may be viewed as a sign of immorality or deviance. This can be particularly true for those in conservative professions, such as politics or law.
Safety Concerns: Revealing one's interest in BDSM can also lead to safety concerns. This is particularly true for those who are part of a vulnerable or marginalized group. Those who are open about their BDSM interests may be at risk of being targeted by those who are not accepting of this form of sexual expression.

Sunshinegirl​(sub female) - Solution: 1)don’t tell anyone you work with/have a professional relationship with about your personal business.
2) Who cares what anyone else thinks. It’s 2023 baby!

1 year ago
Island girl​(sub female){Yes owned.} - I work out of my home. I have strangers traipsing in and out of my house all day long. My bedroom is my art studio is my office. If someone asks to come in to see what I'm working on, I invite them in. If they choose to look at my bookcase which is right beside the easel, they get what they deserve for being nosy. My collar and very obvious leash that I wear every day, get way more comments. I just tell them that my other half wants to make sure I don't get lost.
As for my employees, it's there and it isn't talked about. No one asks questions. I don't shout it to the rooftops, it really isn't their business unless or until it impacts them in some way (sorry, had to make the pun). I am wysiwyg though. If you're gonna ask the question, you'd better be prepared to listen to the answer. I'm in a triad and we've lived in this small town for 20 years. We're already non-traditional.
1 year ago

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