One of my gifts is to be able to see people.
When you are able to see yourself, the patterns, the behaviors, the incongruencies, the misalignment, it becomes easier to see it in others.
Often I am asked what I see. It is a recurring theme. It is something, I have learned, I get to step away from.
Example:
I can see clearly where Amethyst needs personal growth. Where her fear holds her captive. Where she is sacrificing herself at her own expense.
But it is not mine to show her. My attempt to show her would only be met with confusion from her. If she was ready to see it she would already see it.
How do I know this?
I have attempted for YEARS to show others what they are not ready yet to see. Believing in myself that the reason I see these things is to help them see. And I have discovered that is ENTIRELY wrong.
While my heart may be true that I just desire them to know themselves honestly. While I have zero intention of putting them down, or causing them to feel less than. The truth is most people do not enjoy being shown a piece of themselves they are not ready to witness. It is too uncomfortable. Exposing. Usually all they hear is they are somehow failing.
The reason I see what I do about others is because that sight informs me how to love them. How to encourage them. How to hold a space for them. How to witness their journey and cheer them on. How to support them in a way they can feel heard, seen, and met.
Now, that is not mutually exclusive from pushing others. Or giving them food for thought. Even that, I get to be deliberately cautious. Not too much of a push. Not too much information. Just gentle, supportive, nurturing care.
Besides, there is something absolutely fascinating about witnessing others discover themselves. Having those light-bulb moments where the fog lifts and clarity is seen. I get SO excited to watch others along their journey see a piece that has long been hidden from their sight because of fear, conditioning, or mechanisms.
Usually, the individual also becomes aware that I just held space for them to navigate their journey in a way that worked best for them. I did not judge. Or try to change them. I got to cheer them on and believe in them. Often they will see that and a relationship is deepened. Not always, and that is not really the point of course. I revel in the reality that a fear once held them back and no longer does. That alone is special to be allowed to witness.
That, to me, is the power of a dominant. To have the absolute ability to crush, break, mangle, tear apart someone (mentally, emotionally, physically) and yet they use restraint, diligence, intentionality, care, and uplifting to see the best version of another take shape. The power to destroy someone when you can see their weaknesses but instead you use them to discover how best to support them.
Sometimes, what we do not say or do is vastly more necessary than anything else.
I hope you find you are aligned with your purpose today.
Namaste
Drago and Amethyst