A lot of people struggle finding partners within the world of BDSM. For any variety or number of reasons sometimes things just don't seem to work out. From someone lives too far away, or your kinks don't match up, to you have different dynamic preferences there is no shortage for finding incompatibility. The list goes on and the reasons are seemingly endless as to why we don't find the partners we are looking for. At times this can get really discouraging and down right depressing. I know at times, I've pretty much given up looking all together because it seems like the person that I'm looking for must not exist. The simple truth of the matter is that is not true though. It may be rare and hard to find, but they are out there somewhere.
It can be easy to find a big fish in a little pond. On the other hand, it can be nearly impossible to find even the biggest fish if you are looking in the ocean unless you just happen to be looking in exactly the right place at exactly the right time. Then when you do see the big fish, what if it wasn't the correct big fish, what if it looked like the fish you were looking for, but not quite, or it was already with another fish? Well I guess that means you just have to keep on looking. Some people will attach on to the first fish that they find and be satisfied with that. Some people are happy with that. I don't think that I can be one of those people. I don't think many of us can be. I think we need to find the one that fits us, the one that we are looking for, not the first one that comes along and pretend that its good enough.
Then you have the people that hop from one fish to the next, to the next, and the next again. Seemingly a never stopping revolving door of fish. How do they ever know if they have found the right one when they haven't spent any time figuring out if they are or not. I don't have any interest in that either. Or in the fish hopper themselves. If they enjoy that sort of thing by all means go have your fun, but its not of interest to me. I want to find one and spend a while with them and at least put forth a solid effort to figure out if it is what I would like it to be and move forward from there. Constantly fish hopping seems like a whole lot of work to me. I would much rather just concentrate on one.
The big pond is just that, its big. So in turn the search may take a while. That doesn't mean that its going to take forever though. The thing about going fishing is that if you have the right bait, eventually the fish that you are looking for seems to come and find you. So it might take a bit longer than you want it to, or even a lot longer than you want it to, and if it does make sure that it counts for that much more when it does happen. Out there somewhere is another fish looking for someone just like you, they just haven't found you yet. You just have to keep that in mind and know that someday, probably when you are least expecting it, you will likely cross each others path somehow.
Stay classy, never give up, and never give in. The universe has a funny way of making these things work out in the end.
