An interesting thing happened to me recently. I have a depression illness and was seeing my psychiatrist for medication management. She always asks me about how things are going. I knew she'd want to know that I had a relationship now. So I told her and she was all excited and wanted to know about it.
Well as soon as I said that we met on the internet, she went ballistic. She stopped listening to what I was saying and started into a tirade about how older women are getting taken advantage of by men they met on the internet. And then she told me about her aunt who was in that situation.
She basically bled all the joy out of having a relationship. Then she said she was going to make a 2 mon followup appointment for me instead of 6 mon so she could check up on me and make sure I was okay. I told my Master about this and his reaction was "I'm just a regular guy trying to make a living like everybody else." A sane response if I ever heard one.
I appreciate her concern but these things have happened to me in every relationship I've ever had. Someone always put a negative spin on it and in my naivete, I thought that it must not be God's will that I date the guy. It really did a number on me for years until I started thinking that I was the only person on the face of this earth that was never allowed to marry.
As soon as I got enough info on my Master, I did a background check and found nothing negative. I also checked the Chamber of Congress in his town for complaints against his business and there were a few but mostly he got good reviews. He wasn't an axe murderer, or if he is, he's hidden the bodies really well and hasn't been caught yet. He has no felonies, and yadda, yadda.
I continue to be cautious but I'm finding that we communicate differently and think differently. And if I take the time to discuss a potential negative thing with him, then I find that his explanation is a reasonable one. He has been a great example to me of addressing a situation before it snowballs into a huge mess. He's not afraid to confront problems. And he does it in a reasonable way.
We are taking our time getting a Vanilla base established at the moment. Our D/s, M/s activity has been limited in the last few months due to illness and exhaustion on both our parts at least from my perspective on what seems to be happening.
So ... this time I will not allow opinions or other people's scenarios to sway me. The direction we take will be based on facts not on other peoples' opinions or scare tactics.
