Soul Deep Connection deep spiritual dynamic

3 months ago. January 13, 2025 at 3:51 AM

I I Soul Love is rare if you find it hold on to it.

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who's both your partner and best friend, hold on tight. That connection is rare and precious. Don't let your flaws or fears sabotage the relationship. Work through challenges together, and prioritize your bond.

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Until we live a life free from the internal conflict between who we think we are expected to be and who we really are, we will suffer. Transformation is uncomfortable because we are having to look in the mirror and confront the untruths that we have been conditioned to believe and look deep into our own soul, into all the places that we hide from, and learn how to love ourselves there.
Without the courage to transform, we will cling to the very belief system that has been controlling us with fear, guilt and shame. Don't just ask yourself "why do I feel bad about myself?" ask "why do I HAVE to feel bad about myself?"
The answer is: you don't. You get to choose how you feel about yourself but only if you are willing to stop agreeing with the beliefs about yourself that are untrue and hurtful. You become the boss of your own life when you finally realize that you are the owner of it and you are responsible for your own choices.
-Joel Clemons •

We are attracted and drawn to what feels familiar and relatable to us, so what do you relate to or what are you drawn to: pain, anxiety, depression, chaos, drama or love, strength, courage, compassion, stability and empathy? If you don't want to prepare yourself for another toxic and failed relationship, then you have to start by healing your relationship with yourself. You have to become the person who is READY to love by treating yourself the way that you want to be treated. You have to let go of your story of unhappiness and suffering and live the story that you want to share with someone else.
Life is all about timing, so what are you waiting for, start living and loving your life so that you're ready to share it with someone else.

-Joel Clemons •

Right now, there are people all over the world who are just like you. They're lonely. They're missing somebody. They're in love with someone they probably shouldn't be in love with. They have secrets you wouldn't believe. They wish, dream, hope, and they look out the window whenever they're in a car or on a bus or a train and they watch people on the streets and wonder what they've been through. They wonder if there are people out there like them. They're like you, and you could tell them everything and they would understand. You're never alone.
And right now, they're sitting here reading these words and I'm writing this for you so you don't feel so alone anymore." —unknown.

I'm fine by myself, but I'm better with you. Everything that means something to me, whether it has made me laugh or made me cry, you're the person that I want to share every experience with because no matter what I'm going through, I know that with you I'm making a memory of how much I was loved.
— Joel Clemons •

Be the person that you want to attract.
Learn to love yourself without
judgement if you want someone
else to love you unconditionally.
Respect and stand up for yourself
if you want someone else who
will keep you safe.
Live your passion if you want to
find someone who makes you feel free.
The love you have for yourself is what you will look for in someone else.
-Joel Clemons

Feeling appreciated fills us with love, purpose and fulfillment. Feeling appreciated means feeling valued and being treated fairly. Sadly, most people don't feel appreciated at work, with family or in a relationship because giving is often not reciprocated so a person ends up feeling used, taken advantage of or manipulated.
Expectations are often what breaks our heart the most. We think someone cares about us the way that we care about them and so we give and share the best of ourselves and then they reward us by ignoring our needs, dismissing our feelings or always have an excuse for why they can't show up for us when we need them. It's frustrating, disappointing and hurtful. It's not real appreciation without reciprocation.
Don't just say that you appreciate someone, show them! Relationships are built on trust and trust is earned by being fair with each other. In life, you deserve the same quality of love that you give, no more, no less. If you want love, respect, trust, support, comfort or anything else, learn to be the giver of it, not a person who just expects it or feels entitled to it.
We grow to love what we take care of. The more time, energy and love that we put into something, the more that we appreciate it and that has never been more true than the love that we put into another person. We thrive when loved and feel deprived without it. Love doesn't just grow on it's own, it takes effort and when that effort is reciprocated, then the love becomes stronger, deeper and more powerful than the lovers themselves! One of the greatest gifts that you can give someone is showing them how much they are appreciated by returning the love and kindness that they show you.
-Joel Clemons

Just because somebody isn't making enough time for you doesn't always mean that you don't matter to them. It can mean that they aren't able to balance their time or their life in a way that allows them to show up for you in the way that they would like to.
The way to know that is by observing the way that they show up for themselves or others. In other words, can you tell that they are taking taking care of themselves or do they look stressed, tired or frazzled? Are other things or other people in their life also being neglected?
These could be signs of a person who is struggling to cope emotionally or might have depression. In which case, taking the time and the initiative to check in with them would show that they matter to you and might be the best way to connect with them and be supportive so that they feel cared for instead of alone and overwhelmed.
If, on the other hand, a person is intentionally ignoring you or has pulled away to spend their time with others, then it indicates that what they were getting out of their relationship with you wasn't enough or that they don't want to put more effort into the relationship. People will always evaluate how much something is worth to them and they will pursue what they consider to be of greater value.
So it might be a good time for you to evaluate your friendship with them; are they really your friend or have you just been their friend all of this time? Have they been fair in the relationship or do they just make you feel good for all of the things that you do for them? Do they reciprocate or take advantage?
You deserve the same kind of love and effort that you give. It doesn't mean that people can or will give you that, but it means that you should only invest yourself in relationships where you are recognized and appreciated for who you are and what you bring into the relationship because that's what is fair and what you've earned.
-Joel Clemons •

We all desire to feel accepted and loved for who we are. When someone tells us that we need to be different or act different somehow, it can feel like rejection, which can lead to fear of abandonment and loss of love.
In order to defend our self worth and self esteem when it feels like we are being criticized, attacked or blamed, we might get defensive, deflect, deny or ignore what is being said to us. We might interpret our partner's need for reassurance as distrust for us and feel that we are being accused of something that we didn't do. We might see our partner's need for us to make them feel safer emotionally as them telling us that we don't care about them.
Our partner may be trying to help us be more open and honest with our feelings in the relationship so that there's greater intimacy and connection and we may take it as they don't believe us and they think we're hiding something. We might then feel that any changes of behavior that we make are admissions of guilt; that we are admitting to being an uncaring and dishonest person that can't be trusted.
The truth is, we all need to grow. Great relationships don't just happen, we have to learn how to create them, we have to learn what a healthy relationship consists of and practice what makes each other happy. It helps when we understand that how we love our partner is actually how we want them to love us; we teach them to love us by the way that we show them love.
The goal needs to be to learn how your partner wants to be loved by you; to learn THEIR love language. To do that, we need to be able to accept responsibility for our behaviors that are not making them feel loved and learn what does make them feel loved. We make our partner feel truly loved and accepted when we show them the love that makes them feel understood and safe.
-Joel Clemons•