Soon 2023 will be gone

flitter'fly​(sub female) - Sadly, there are those who use this site to act as if they truly want this lifestyle.
But those who fall in between, the ones who want to learn and grow, should be given encouragement to do so.
After all, we all have been new to this lifestyle at one point.
Where would we be now if everyone had this mindset and took this approach?

Food for thought..

Spanks hard​(dom male) - Flitterfly I agree with you

ReanaP​(sub female)​{Spoken for} - Don't forget those of us who dont fully understand but are trying too :)

flitter'fly​(sub female) - That and everything is not just black or white. Not everything is put into boxes.
You can want one aspect of this world and not want the other. The difference is learning, growing, and trying to better ones self and knowlage.

Juicy Licious - I'm with you on that Reana. And some are still trying to find out place and how we fit in. Gosh... I'm still trying to find me. And I do so bit by bit and day by day.

Innocent Me​(sub female)​{Protected} - Agreed, ladies...I understand Spanks hard also though. There are truly those who are here for the wrong reason. It's figuring out who's who...giving encouragement and kindness to those that are here for the right reasons and not to the ones that are here for selfish/wrong reasons. Then again, we all have our ideas on what the 'right' and 'wrong' reasons are. I suppose we all just have to find our groups of like minded individuals and flourish among those that have the same goals for this lifestyle. Complicated being a human. :)

flitter'fly​(sub female) - It's called growth my friend.
And we all grow. Lol
I've had my own smack downs on thecage, and have handled them extremely poorly.
I am also certain, that it won't be the last time either.
Hehe
Still just an infant in this world. ?

Spanks hard​(dom male) - Yes I did fail to mention the people who are here to learn more about the BDSM lifestyle and gain knowledge from those of us that have lived the lifestyle for many years. That was my mistake.

flitter'fly​(sub female) - You only failed on writing it in a way that we understood.
Takes courage to write blogs.
Takes a man to eccept constructive criticism and florish within it.
Hugs ?

ReanaP​(sub female)​{Spoken for} - Just an observatory comment :)
but I do understand your point of view

Drinfear​(dom male)​{Owns PFP} - I also agree with Spanks, and the entirety of His post, especially having added the mentioning those wanting to learn more, but do not know how to do so or who to reach out to with questions.. One of My pet peeves on this matter would be individuals who view the lifestyle as a dating site with extra chances to get sex, and nothing more..

flitter'fly​(sub female) - ?
Yesss again there are the fakes and we have to be mindful and weed them out.
Why I love this family, this home away from home.
A tight nit community looking out for oneanother, Warms my heart.

Satindragon​{Not Lookin} - A lot of people don't comprehend the commitment it takes to have a long term dynamic. Nor the depth of responsibility that is shared by both parties. Here for a quick fix that results in a burnout.

Drinfear​(dom male)​{Owns PFP} - or worse still, a new horror story that shows others that MIGHT otherwise have a curiosity to explore, only that this lifestyle might not be what they originally though it was, so get scared away.

flitter'fly​(sub female) - Exactly
Like most marriages/relationships, in the vanilla world today.
It's daunting.
Thanks Satindragon ?

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