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Another year is about to end. What are the plans for 2024? Mine are to slow down just live from day to day and worry less about the things that I can not change but change those issues that I can do something about. I know that I can not physically live forever in my body. But I will spiritually alive.
5 months ago. January 27, 2024 at 1:31 PM

In the bdsm lifestyle there seems to be a mixture of people who fully understands the Dom/submissive dynamics as well as the Master/slave dynamics and cradled in between are those who pretend to know what the bdsm lifestyle is all about those who don't understand what the beauty of the bdsm lifestyle is truly about waste the time of us that live and breathe the lifestyle. I may be banned for speaking my mind but so be it. 

flitter'fly​(sub female) - Sadly, there are those who use this site to act as if they truly want this lifestyle.
But those who fall in between, the ones who want to learn and grow, should be given encouragement to do so.
After all, we all have been new to this lifestyle at one point.
Where would we be now if everyone had this mindset and took this approach?

Food for thought..
5 months ago
Spanks hard​(dom male){Looking } - Flitterfly I agree with you
5 months ago
ReanaP​(sub female){Spoken for} - Don't forget those of us who dont fully understand but are trying too :)
5 months ago
flitter'fly​(sub female) - That and everything is not just black or white. Not everything is put into boxes.
You can want one aspect of this world and not want the other. The difference is learning, growing, and trying to better ones self and knowlage.
5 months ago
Juicy Licious - I'm with you on that Reana. And some are still trying to find out place and how we fit in. Gosh... I'm still trying to find me. And I do so bit by bit and day by day.
5 months ago
Innocent Me​(sub female){Protected} - Agreed, ladies...I understand Spanks hard also though. There are truly those who are here for the wrong reason. It's figuring out who's who...giving encouragement and kindness to those that are here for the right reasons and not to the ones that are here for selfish/wrong reasons. Then again, we all have our ideas on what the 'right' and 'wrong' reasons are. I suppose we all just have to find our groups of like minded individuals and flourish among those that have the same goals for this lifestyle. Complicated being a human. :)
5 months ago
flitter'fly​(sub female) - It's called growth my friend.
And we all grow. Lol
I've had my own smack downs on thecage, and have handled them extremely poorly.
I am also certain, that it won't be the last time either.
Hehe
Still just an infant in this world. 🤗

5 months ago
Spanks hard​(dom male){Looking } - Yes I did fail to mention the people who are here to learn more about the BDSM lifestyle and gain knowledge from those of us that have lived the lifestyle for many years. That was my mistake.
5 months ago
flitter'fly​(sub female) - You only failed on writing it in a way that we understood.
Takes courage to write blogs.
Takes a man to eccept constructive criticism and florish within it.
Hugs 🤗
5 months ago
ReanaP​(sub female){Spoken for} - Just an observatory comment :)
but I do understand your point of view
5 months ago
Drinfear​(dom male){Owns PFP} - I also agree with Spanks, and the entirety of His post, especially having added the mentioning those wanting to learn more, but do not know how to do so or who to reach out to with questions.. One of My pet peeves on this matter would be individuals who view the lifestyle as a dating site with extra chances to get sex, and nothing more..
5 months ago
flitter'fly​(sub female) - 🤔
Yesss again there are the fakes and we have to be mindful and weed them out.
Why I love this family, this home away from home.
A tight nit community looking out for oneanother, Warms my heart.
5 months ago
SirDanNc - You should never worry about speaking your mind in this situation. Spanks you are so correct. There are so many people who think it's just about sexual experiences and don't truly understand the connection and emotions that are involved. Thank you for writing this.
5 months ago
flitter'fly​(sub female) - Absolutely
5 months ago
Satindragon{Not Lookin} - A lot of people don't comprehend the commitment it takes to have a long term dynamic. Nor the depth of responsibility that is shared by both parties. Here for a quick fix that results in a burnout.
5 months ago
Drinfear​(dom male){Owns PFP} - or worse still, a new horror story that shows others that MIGHT otherwise have a curiosity to explore, only that this lifestyle might not be what they originally though it was, so get scared away.
5 months ago
flitter'fly​(sub female) - Exactly
Like most marriages/relationships, in the vanilla world today.
It's daunting.
Thanks Satindragon 😊
5 months ago
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