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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Thursday, May 23, 2024 at 7:47 PM

Hello friends,

To avoid making mistakes with my life for the foreseeable future, I am setting aside my libido and abstaining from even thinking about sex. Now, what am I going to do with the 360 Cialis pills I bought in the hope of using them? I wonder how long before they lose their effectiveness; will they remain suitable if I change my mind someday?

 

1 year ago. Thursday, May 23, 2024 at 12:15 PM

Hi Friends,

I have many night dreams, and some involve remembering. Last night, I dreamt that three baby raccoons1 showed up in my yard and that I began a search to save them, my intentions opposed by their enemies. Two women helped me, and eventually, we found them a safe haven. 

Weird as it may seem, the Segway had me in some sort of organized military setting searching for the right place to fix a heating problem, but I wound up in a class of people who were painting their bodies: I joined them. I flirted with at least two girls in the class (LOL)

1 In a past owned home, once I opened the door to the garage from the kitchen, and there at my feet were three baby raccoons; I owned three dogs and several cats, so I got them to a safe place (can't recall where). Once my neighbor and I saved an injured Possum the animal zoo gladly helped.

1 year ago. Wednesday, May 22, 2024 at 9:18 PM

This is the result:

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
88% Voyeur
85% Dominant
84% Master/Mistress
81% Vanilla
72% Owner
63% Non-monogamist
60% Experimentalist
52% Brat tamer
49% Rigger
38% Primal (Hunter)
35% Exhibitionist
31% Switch
29% Daddy/Mommy
27% Rope bunny
20% Submissive
15% Pet
8% Brat
7% Degrader
5% Primal (Prey)
4% Sadist
3% Degradee
1% Slave
0% Ageplayer
0% Boy/Girl
0% Masochist

1 year ago. Wednesday, May 22, 2024 at 6:27 PM

Hello Friends,

One of my doctors alerted me to the effect antidepressants can have on sexual function. I looked into it here are there highlights of what I discovered.

 

Antidepressants can cause sexual side effects in both men and women, including:

  • Decreased sexual desire
    Decreased sexual excitement
    Delayed or diminished orgasm
    Erection problems
    Problems with arousal, comfort, and satisfaction
    Delayed lubrication
    Discomfort during sex
    Decreased libido
    Trouble maintaining an erection  
  • Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are antidepressants that are most likely to cause sexual side effects, including paroxetine (Paxil), fluoxetine (Prozac), sertraline (Zoloft), escitalopram (Lexapro), and citalopram (Celexa). In one study, paroxetine had the highest rate of sexual dysfunction among SSRIs, with 65% of clients experiencing side effects. Other SSRIs, such as fluvoxamine (Luvox), also cause up to half of patients to report a decline in libido. Google

One AntiDepressant curbs premature ejaculation: Seratraline offered by an online pharmacy

1 year ago. Wednesday, May 22, 2024 at 10:51 AM

It was a nice, cool morning, friend, so I took the dogs for a long walk, fed them, made my coffee, cut the front and back lawns, talked to one of my two shrinks, and power-hosed the portable gate barriers. What more do I need? My breakfast and make a breakfast too.

1 year ago. Wednesday, May 22, 2024 at 12:18 AM

Hello Friends,

It has taken a while, but the fragments of my current life are beginning to form a picture. As my wife's cognitive impairment worsened, I became concerned because I never lived for very long without a woman companion, and we reached the 39th year this past January when she was impaired. She has no cognitive interest in continuing our decades-long sexual relationship or much of any relationship, and I attempted to solve that but could not because I am a stranger in this place and have no social life. It was a torment, and I made many mistakes and was the victim of deception at least 20 times via the internet. During this period, I met a woman (Mistress) online who convinced me to invest in a project that I still don't know what it is, and I never met her. All those mistakes and mysterious investments are in my past, and I no longer care about the loss. However, in a conversation, she told me I should not have a girlfriend.

I now understand that thought very well. Having my living wife with me makes having a relationship almost impossible, no matter what the relationship. Alzheimer's/Dementia/Aphasia demands my full attention in taking care of her. Next, I don't have enough room to have a girlfriend living here. The family uses the small bedroom, and when I can afford to have an aide, she can stay for a while in that spare room. Lastly, I have always suffered from depression and anxiety, and when I get worn down, I become edgy and quickly unpleasant.

The bottom line? For now and for the undetermined future, I shall endure, accept my fate, remain alone, and watch my favorite British Television programs just before I turn in each night.

It is acceptance of reality and adaptation to the same.

 

1 year ago. Tuesday, May 21, 2024 at 9:30 AM

Hello Friends,

To function reasonably well, I must continually balance my temperamental artistic side with my logical scientific side in equilibrium. I rely on CBT:

"Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a treatment that aims to break down negative thought patterns and improve feelings by helping people deal with current problems. CBT theory suggests that thoughts, emotions, body sensations, and behavior are all connected, and that what people think and do affects how they feel. CBT can help people get to a point where they can achieve this on their own and tackle problems without the help of a therapist."  (from quick Google Search)
 

Just like a cardiologist prescribes medications and physical activity to improve a heart condition, CBT with activities and medications can be pretty successful. Like all things applying to humans, results can be a statistical percentage of 50% or 80% improvement. The underlying factor may easily quantified as the ability and amount of socialization involved for success.

A factor hard to gauge is just how positive a relationship is with a sexual partner. The style suits both lovers and the frequency and degree of the engagements: Make or break the ability to live in harmony and with so many things in life a balance between."Too Little or Too Much"

To paraphrase Abraham Lincoln, you can help some people sometimes and help some people all the time, but you can not help all people all the time.

1 year ago. Monday, May 20, 2024 at 9:18 PM

Hey My Good Friends,

What if I knocked on your door at five AM and wanted to visit with you? What would your reaction be?

1 year ago. Monday, May 20, 2024 at 10:30 AM

Hello Friends,

When I awoke and sat at the edge of my bed, I realized immediately something was missing. I could not detect emotions within me.

I looked under the bed and in every upstairs room and closet. I went downstairs and looked in every room. I looked down in the basement. Nope, no emotions in the house. I went and looked inside my car. Nope, no emotions there either.

Fed the dogs and cat, and they seemed absent of their usual emotions, too. I took the dogs out for their morning walk.

The sky was emotionless, and the green grass and trees had no apparent feelings. It was then that I grew concerned about this.

I thought I must have died during the night and was unaware of it.

Of course, I had to ask for a great source of knowledge about this: Google.

People who have difficulty identifying or expressing emotions are known as alexithymics. The term comes from the Greek words a, meaning lack, lexis, meaning word, and thymos, meaning emotion. People with alexithymia may experience:

Difficulty with introspection
Confusion around bodily sensations connected to emotions
Difficulty communicating their emotions to others
Lack of the capacity to feel joy, sorrow, or love
Feeling detached from the emotions of others
A "conscious disconnect" that prevents emotions from breaking through into their mind 1 

 

 

 

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1 year ago. Monday, May 20, 2024 at 9:28 AM

Hello Friends,

Secrets do more harm than good.

"At first, a secret may feel like a form of protection, but ultimately the anxiety, fear, shame, regret and guilt take a toll on our body and mind. Secrets come in many forms such as trauma, unhealthy behavior or even negative beliefs about oneself.

Secrets Make You Sick - Caron Treatment Centers
Caron Treatment Centers
› Blog"

 

Screenplay plots capitalize on the complex issues between humans when secrets are discovered. For example, who the parent is, the actual circumstances of a breakup, lies, and misappropriations are found. Not truthful about education and jobs, too.*
 

 

*Recent example: George Santos

Revealing secrets can be a tricky business, too.