The Culture that has been here all the time

Yes, Friends, I Needed to be Enlightened about this subject.

Start with a link that covers it succinctly and well:

It has the needed information and a handy comparison chart and images.

".  .  . But during sex, it’s possible to experience other kinds of involuntary fluid emissions. For some, this consists of a small amount of milky fluid (1). Others report “squirting” much more—enough to soak the bed (1). Until 2011, there was no agreement among scientists regarding the composition of these fluids (1). Scientists referred to any involuntary emission of fluid from the vulva as “female ejaculation”. Researchers now know female ejaculation and squirting are different things (1).  .  .  ."

Now I have a much better idea of what all this means. Jim

Hello Friends,

Emotional sensitive and psychologically challenged people like myself have better days if when we wake in the morning, the anxiety level is low, there is something pleasant to anticipate, and having a partner that offers an alternative possibility from what we tend to think negatively about too often. From "The Nam," my fellow veteran who was a grunt in the "First Calvery" (US Army) had a mantra I knew he mainly used it to vent though (even here in The States), he had some above-average negatives to deal with with with. He would tell me, "You are born, you live, and you die."

We all know this is a fact of life, but despite this and my distorted way of thinking, I expect more, and sometimes, I get something better in life.

When I work on anything artistic (especially my songs), I most often have a sense of optimism or mystery and fight back sadness and anxiety. Welterschmertz is always waiting at my front door. When I open that door on my best days, someone I love steps in between me and that sad spector.

My wife, before her illness, used to be my greatest salvation. Now, without intention, she can escort the specter inside where I live to greet me. There are some people who can ease my pain and stave off the worst ill feelings, and here in this kink culture, there is much to deflect my negative tendencies and not let them swarm over me.

My interest in science is also a big distraction. I follow the developments of Space X, especially the James Web Telescope and its achievements. I turned down* a full scholarship for Princeton University (class of 81) in Astrophysics, but my core interest in the Cosmos remains. It may be a type of salvation I expect from the snares of entropy that engulf us and all we see and experience. 

The blossoms of spring, the birds that sing, and the gentle touch of spring air live as my lover's soft hair does, which is good for me and gives me peace.

* Older than most freshmen entering a five-year program (a must live on campus), about to be remarried, and, I admitted I could have been a better mathematician.

Hello Friends, 

Do you consider the search for a sexual partner a) a lust-driven game or b) one of the necessities of life?

Hello Friends,

This is a thought experiment and the answers and the implications are for you to really know as a form of "truth or dare". 

Dear Friends,

I am sure now that I have had a subliminal image of the woman I have sought all my life. Over and over, the woman I am most attracted to fits the same description. This is a subconscious ideal, and I have not adhered to the image as if it were a marble statue. Still a glimpse of her hair, her stature, her voice, her walk, her eyes, her skin, her lips, her body . . . all energize my long quest to find her. I am sure she would be my perfect lover if we ever had a chance to meet. Words unspoken; a touch, love, and lust take control.

Image of a Girl Song by The Safaris
 
As I lie awake resting from the day
I can hear the clock passing time away
Oh, I couldn't sleep for on my mind
Was the image of the girl I hope to find…

My wife is significantly affected by Dementia +, but we still retain some aspects of synchronicity.

"Jared Heathman, board certified psychiatrist with Your Family Psychiatrist in Houston, Texas, told Medical News Today: “Married couples often think the same, which is called synchronized thinking. This type of thinking can be something that brings couples together. People often choose partners that are similar to them."

"When lovers are in sync? 
When you are synced with your partner you are fully present with that person – mind, body, spirit. ✓ You can walk side by side—somehow your footsteps match up… even though he's 5 inches taller. ✓ You can finish each other's sentences… you are paying attention."

"Can a spark come later in a relationship? 
But according to dating experts, a real healthy spark and foundation can take time to build, a.k.a. that love-at-first-sight feeling isn't all that sustainable."

"Does your heart synchronize with someone you love?
The Science on Heart Rhythms

One of the ways we know we're in love is that we begin to experience behavioral synchrony. We might start finishing each other's sentences or crave the same foods, activities, and desires. This kind of synchrony extends to our heartbeats, too."

These are just a sample of what a Google search produces. Jim

Happy Mother's Day and International Nurses Day

Hello Friends,

From fake news to manipulated advertising, we all must be on our guard because it is too easy to be fooled by anything. The world's militaries know much about this and deliberately use their power to their advantage. All businesses use it to some degree, and some go too far, and the deception is close to lies that can cause harm.

I noticed that online dating sites and social sites of all kinds, even kinky sites, can have flaws. The worst is that unscrupulous scammers prey upon unsuspecting potential victims. I have been duped several times, and this encouraged me to become an amateur investigator: I unmasked about twenty of these nefarious, unscrupulous people and tracked them to where they really were and who they were. I remain vigilant now, and I don't waste time hunting them any longer.

So, I like meeting new people here and on other sites, but I remain alert. I truly enjoy the openness and candid expression in the kink world. I enjoy the ladies and girls who openly share their desires, photos, and videos of their lovely bodies. Also how they elaborate on their likes and dislikes.

Ok, Friends,

So, I am texting and exchanging photos with Anastasia, a beautiful blonde woman from Ukraine (not her real name). We discussed, among other things, the war with Russia from which she fled. We entered into a very explicit description of what we could do sexually, and she told me she would have a vacation soon from her job and wished to visit me. This occurred over a year ago before I knew I didn't have to use a website that charges for every message and every photo exchange. Once I found out, I knew I had to break away. I wrote a "fairy tale" where she was the Princess in the forest that a woodsman rescued. It was then that she explained in great detail how she wanted me to tie her up and have my way with her. Tie her in a chair so she could expose her ass and pussy for me and how she wanted me to play with her. You can't imagine my disappointment when I ran out of credits to use on the website, and I didn't have enough money to buy more credits. Sigh

Hello Friends,

The ancient KamaSutra categorizeses three male and three female size categories. It generalizes pairing with each size group, resulting in nine variations. Thanks to the BDSM Kink folks who are willing to provide photos of pussies and cocks and commentary about preferences, I see the situation is more complex.

The appearance of individual sex organs has many more variables. Beyond function, it then becomes a matter of preferential erotic stimulation based on sight and also preferences in touch/feel, especially in oral sex.

How your partner responds will encourage the development of a relationship once the preliminary preferences bring you together.

Before this openness, people could only play sex roulette and hope their partner, and they were a match and compatible sexually.

Long-term relationships would be more successful if people could understand their preferences, find ways to find each other and have a test relationship before committing. Hopefully, all other relationship factors can be satisfied as well, I.E., personalities. 

That is, if the partners want a long-term relationship.