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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
9 months ago. Sunday, April 20, 2025 at 12:39 PM

What constitutes too much sex is as subjective as too much good weather.

Too much of anything is certainly a judgment made by each of us in our unique way, and it applies to everything from food to drink to relationships.

The first time (or the first several times) is a special condition that usually morphs into a routine. Routines can be okay, but they can diminish the excitement, joy, and specialness of the subject of the routine. Taking a break usually restores some of the pleasure lost to excessive repetition. WE all know "make up sex" is great, and having a favorite food we didn't have for a while renews the pleasures.

Can this phenomenon be modified? Maybe. Yet, how this is accomplished may have some risk, and it may not always work. In other words, the break may be the only real solution.

So, whether a course of abstenance is chosen or applied to us by serendipity, it still seems to function as described above. There are a number of ways to inject "the spice of life," and they all amount to variety as each of you may define it.

Pix a bay photo of serendipity:

 


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