A friend asked me some questions here on the Cage, so I will use some of my answers in this blog post. A forty-year marriage, and I am certain my wife was a sub in retrospect. Me? I was in charge by default, maybe the best description. The realities of BDSM and its definitions entered my perspective about four years ago. I am still a novice.
"I ran our household: Made the lion's share of income from science and technical jobs, but I also ran my own creative endeavors in the music business and art.
We shared domestic responsibilities with our four children (a boy and a girl each), so, on the subject sub, she was 1950s-style.
Sex? Both of us experienced negatives. Simple answer: she pretty much was anything-goes that was safe. I learned gradually, through some conversations but mostly through observation. Past photos and behaviour. We both had strong sex drives"
So here I am living alone in a vacuum following my wife's demise and unsure what I should plan and expect. I just know I am still independent, clear thinking, and would benefit from a sex life.
acrylic of my wife, one creative commons, one pixabay.com.
